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Why is he doing this??
Ok! Im going crazzzy! I started talking to this guy online and he told me he liked me and everything. so anyway we were friends but not like real tight or nothing. Anyway me hooked up one tight. just kissed and stuff. and than i got right weird (like i always do) i sorta ignored him for like a week. I dunno y i do that. i havent had many boyfriends or anything. anyhow he called all week and id make up excuses. so than the next week. i realized ye kno i miss this guy and i kinda started to like him a nice bit. and than he started igoring me. bso i asked him like do you want to just b friends. and he said no that he really liked me. and than he still prety much ignored me. ended up banging into him another night and he grabbed me by the waist and kissed me.(we were at a friends house) anyhow he said he had to run sumwhere and hed b back. but he never came back.. and than the next day he left to go to europe on a trip. So im all freaked out. i dunno if he likes me or is just fucking around. or if he possibly just wants to get with people on his trip. and not have to worry bout me being mad and that. its driving me cray cuz i really like him.. Please Help .. before i go totaly wacko
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You kissed him, then blew him off for a week and made lame excuses insofar as why you couldn't see him.
Here's what happened: you hurt his feelings. What you saw as "just kissing and stuff" probably meant a lot to him, and when he tried to pursue a relationship with you further, you pushed him away without explanation. That's really painful! And he's not going to thank his lucky stars just because you suddenly start returning his calls after a week.
I'm guessing he was ready to throw in the towel and stop calling, and then suddenly you made an about-face. He then saw a chance to give you a taste of your own medicine. Basically, he's getting revenge.
It's very likely that his friends encouraged him to play it this way. He probably told them about you, and they were like, "Dude, she's not worth agonizing over." Then, when you suddenly made a turnaround and started showing interest, they said, "You've got a golden opportunity - kiss her again right before your Europe trip and then leave without saying anything. That'll TOTALLY freak her out!"
And, of course, it's working.
Whether the two of you can form a real relationship will depend on whether you can both start acting a little more grown-up. You need to say you're sorry for blowing him off at moment one, and he needs to then apologize for going a little overboard with the payback. If you tell him that you were just confused about your feelings and needed a little time, he'll probably understand (and if he doesn't, then he's being needlessly bitter and vindictive and you should set your sights elsewhere).
You're definitely off on the wrong foot, but if you can start being honest and up-front with each other, there's still a chance. The really hard part will be getting his friends to like you; if I'm right about their involvement, they view you as a heartbreaker, and they won't accept you easily.
If you choose to pursue this, good luck. You're going to need it.
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in myy opinion,it seems that this boy only likes you bc he thinks you kiss well or something. if he doesnt like talk to you like at all and ignores you, then goes randomly and starts kissing you, tahts probably why.
and make sure you find out if hes dating someone else..bc that could be why he left that night.but idk
hope i helped,
MOlly
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It sounds like this guy could actually like you, but the fact that you pushed him away after his first time showing you his feelings, could of upset him a bit and now he's not so sure what he wants to do.. He may want to keep it an open relationship right now because he is going away and is not going to see you... try emailing him, or phoneing, to let him know how you feel. Or plan a mini little party for just the two of you when he gets back, and see what happends. Good luck!!
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