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I wasn't invited
15/f, this girl who i've known since 6th grade had a sweet 16 last night. We became pretty good friends in 7th grade, and we have an inside joke. Now, I'm in 9th grade (she turned 16 because she's asian and her parents kept her back a year so she could learn the language better or something lol) so now, I have science class with her, and I'll talk to her occassionally. I've always been nice to her and everything. But she didn't invited me too her Sweet 16. Yet she invited people she just met this year. And yeah, maybe she's become good friends with them, but still. I'm pissed!! Idk, maybe she thought if she invited me, she'd have to invite my 2 best friends, but she didn't want to because she's not as close to them. And then that'd start a whole drama thing. But it wouldn't. UGHH! I'm mad. Should I say something to her or would that be too bitchy? And do I have a right to be mad?Thanks!
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This is tough, you just have to know that she probably didnt do it on purpose and that it was probably about how many people she could invite, or maybe she doesnt feel that same bond of friendship as you do. Basically, no you shouldnt talk to her, it's her party and she has the right to invite whomever she wants. If you are a good friend, you wont hold a grudge and she knows that. In life you arent going to get invited to ever party, you arent going to get every thing you want, because life sucks sometimes.
Yeah your pissed off, and thats okay, if you still havnt cooled down in a couple of weeks then talk it out, but reall ythat would make you sound bad, because one day you'll learn that you cant be invited to everything, and you just have to get over it. That comes with time. Some of my friends still don't understand that.
The next time you hear about a party you're not invited to, find something else to do, and then when someone brings it up later you can say oh I was watching this super funny movie or whatever.
As far as the science class thing. She probably wasnt saying it so you would over hear, she probably was just talking and didnt realize you could hear. The downfalls of evesdropping I guess.
So, it's okay to be mad, but you just have to realize that she probably didnt do it intentionally, and if she did then shes not worth worrying about. Good luck, and I hope I helpped, love ya,
Angie91
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It seems like she sees you more as an acquaintance than a good friend. Maybe you see her as a better friend than she is. What I would do is talk to her outside of class and say something along the lines of: "Hey, we used to be such good friends but we haven't hung out in such a long time. Do you want to do something this weekend?" or "I miss hanging out with you, remember when [insert memory here]"
If she sees that you want to be better friends again she will probably consider hanging out with you more often, then you will be close like you used to be.
I don't think you should be offended by not being invited to the party. I've been in that situation and it is almost always that you think you're better friends with the person than you really are.
Hope that helped ;) good luck!
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Not invited to a party=leaving you sad and mad
Not invited to a sewwt 16=leaving you sad, angry, annoyed, left out, REALLY mad
That friend of yours=not a really good friend.
Brake up with her. Brake ups are NOT just for couples, they can also be for friends. Ever heard of an ex-bff? They broke up! So, tell her how you feel and tell her how you feel. She might understand because she was never "not invited" to a party. That will be her excuse. She has been not invited, shes just to scared to admit it.
xoxo
Miss Anonymous
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