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i feel really down
13/f
lately, i've been feeling kind of down sometimes.
It's like, when im hanging with my friends, im fine most of the time.
When I'm home, with nothing to distract me, I tend to get very depressed.
Well depressed is a strong, i just feel kind of sad for no specific reason.
I get in a lot of fights with my parents and that stinks, and I like a guy I can never have, but besides for that I have a pretty good life.
What's going on?
What do i do?
Thanks!
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What you need to do is tell your parents about this and what you think is the cause. Together with them document in a diary what is happening, what triggers it usually and how often it happens.
Why do this? moods that flucuate as much as yours have and do could be signs of a mood disorder such as bipolar which you will need treatment for from a psychiatrist.
You're also needing to document everything that happens with yor mood and any dark, depressed, sad, strange thoughts to make sure that you aren't about to experience a manic episode.
You also need to document any times when you feel super euphoric or high that isn't normal behavior for you as well as that's a sign of trouble.
The fighting with parents is normal regardless. As for the guy? who says you cannot have him? If you keep feeling depressed and sad for no apparent reason go to your doctor and have him try to assess what is going on.
If he is clueless and cannot tell you what to do ask for a referal to a child psychiatrist who can check out if it's a mood disorder or not.
The other cause that may or may not be the reason for why you feel happy one moment and sad the next could be hormonal during puberty. Having said that, you did mention this happens a lot so it's likely medical and needs treatment.
Talk to your parents about this tonight and keep track with them about the fluctuation and see a doctor who can assess you. Symptoms like these or sudden shifts in how someone is feeling behaving that have gone on for quite a while need to be looked at and not taken lightly.
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First, I think that you need to find out what is causing you to become depressed. Is it this guy that you feel you can never have? Are you fighting with freinds? The thing that you need to talk to a friend or parent about your feelings and that may help with your sad emotions. Depression is something that needs to be recognized and helped before it spirals out of control. Try and either get help or find the source of your emotions and try to fix them. I hope that I helped.
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ugh that happened to me for about a month or so...and it sucked so bad! just try to find ways to entertain yourself at home. maybe try to find a hobbie or find a book that you find is awesome. i would always feel the sadness when i had nothing to do but once i found something then i was fine! good luck!!
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hun its normal.... its puberty... i am telling you it suxxxxxxx. there is nothing i can say or do to make it all go away... and there is no advice in the world that can solve it for you but this: join a club or activity or sport or something...it will get your mind of something and you'll become really good at something you like (not to mention your body will thank you for it if you get into sports or so).
i went through this and it only started to fade about a year ago when i was 19.thing is i forced myself to have many activities and now that i am off alone in college, i dnt feel as bad.
when i was in high school i would only feel like that before i go to bed, and thats because that was the only time i had for myself and because when i saw my parents it was only for a few minutes before i was off to do homework study run, dance, go to pilates, read, babysit...etc...
wait!
hey i smell something stinky here! yup... low confidence and negative vibes~ wot do you mean you can never have him?!?! trust me i've seen people who don't belong with each other or were from different social levels or cliques... no it wasnt love at first sight! the girl in the relationship was usually smart and honestly, just herself. HOWEVER... these are some things that i found helped make "herself" glow:
-had confidence that could produce a thousand nuclear weapons (mind you it wasn't snobbery! there is a difference) she just ddnt care wot people say on how she looks (tho if she lookd nice its always a bonus) or anything like that. as long as it felt rite to her she did it.
-she always made sure she smelled good, looked clean, and wore what SHE thot was nice. hygiene!! i cant emphasize that enough.
-spoke to him like any other person (be nice! even though you may be as nervous as hell)
-once you've established friendship be nice and invite him to where ever it is you'd like (u dnt have to officially say its a date just let him decide wot it is)
-think before you act
-smile
-keep eye contact.
-flirt
-say hello when you see him around.
-make small talk. about something you have in common. if you are face to face and have nothing to say dnt make something up you'll look like an idiot. just say hi be quiet for a min if he dsnt say anything excuse yourself and leave. oh and try to talk with someone you knw in the room so it dsnt look like you're not social or something. look at him and smile and keep eye contact. all the better if you continue socializing with others.
-NEVER TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR CRUSH. even tho your frnds are loyal. they can help but look if he's around and trust me boys notice and they keep aways. so keep those lips sealed.
-apply this to everyone. if the peolpe around you think youre sweet and confident. chances r he will too. that is when its up to you and them chem between you :))))
p.s: do these slowly. patience is key. if youre usually a shy girl and outta the blue u just decide to be all confident and outgoing its gunna look weired. start by acting a bit composed and collected (C.C.C. calm cool and collected!) and then slowly start talking to people. move to guys. flirt with them. when you feel confident talk to mr golden... good luck!
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I doubt you can never have him. Just talk to him & you can probably get him. Try not to fight with your parents, and find something to occupy your time with when you're home so you don't get depressed.
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well clearly the liking a guy you can "never have" has to be crucial.
In fact, i'd like to talk to you more over that specific aspect, if youd be willing to.
just leave me something in my inbox
--Brandon---
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