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Too Picky
Im 17/F and ive never really had a relationship. Ive hung out with alot of guys and talked with alot of guys but never wanted to have a real relationship with any of them. All my friends have bfs and makes me feel like im abnormal that i dont want a bf..i just want to have fun. Am i weird?
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no your not weird.There are people that are like that.You just dont want to or your afraid of a commitment.Or mabey you havent found your type of guy yet.
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There's a big difference between being too picky and not wanting a boyfriend. Which is it? If it's just that you don't want a boyfriend, it's normal and it won't be a problem for you. If it's that you're too picky, you're going about things the wrong way. If you've never been in a relationship before, how can you know what you want from one? Your pickiness has no basis. If you wait for the perfect guy to come around, he probably will, but you could find yourself in a pickle. Without the experience from being in other relationships you could really screw up your chance with Mr. Right. Worse yet, you may find that Mr. Right isn't as right for you as you had imagined. Fantasy is very different from reality. Having relationships when you are young is important. You learn valuable lessons for future relationships. Future relationships are the ones that matter. When it matters, you'll want to have enough practice to be able to make them work out. Now, I'm not saying that you can't learn a lot from just plain observation and I'm certainly not telling you to go out and be a slut. What I'm saying to you is that you need to get out there and get involved in the dating world. Don't change who you are, just change your attitude and your persepctive. I was 18 and a half before I started dating so trust me, I know what I'm talking about. I regret not dating when I was younger every day of my life. I got lucky and found a guy that was willing to be really patient with me and help me through my inexperience, but that inexperience could have easily messed things up for us so many times. The older you get, the less patient guys will be with your inexperience. The truth is, people aren't all that different from each other. There are probably 50,000 people on Earth that you could spend the rest of your life with and be perfectly happy. Nobody has one true love out there somewhere. People are people. We're all so much alike it's sickening. If your standards are too high, you'll never be happy. Everyone has flaws. It's not about finding the perfect someone because you wont. It's about finding a someone that is perfect for you. The only way to do this is to go out and experiement. Find a guy that you would enjoy hanging out with and go on a date or two with him. You won't regret it and it could help you so much in the future and maybe even in the here and now. Good luck!
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No, that's perfectly normal. Okay, I want a boyfriend and I'm younger than you, but that's just because I have nothing better to think about (lol OCD problem :P). Having fun at your age is probably a good idea because soon, you'll have to think about going to college and everything. You wouldn't want a guy holding you down from studying. So, to completely answer your question, no, you aren't weird.
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You are the farthest thing removed from weird. People can have their first relationships at any age. Being 17 and never having had a relationship with a member of the opposite sex is normal.
Alot of people these days start dating later into their teens or early 20s. Why? Some people don't want the head games and BS that happens when people are younger and more immature. Cultural reasons may also come into play with parents dictating what age to start dating.
It's not abnormal not to want a boyfriend just yet. You just aren't ready for one as the time isn't right yet. When it is and you have found the right person you'll know it.
If all you want to do right now is have fun on your own or with friends keep on doing it. There's nothing that says you need to have a significant other by age X or something is wrong with you. You're fine.
When it comes to relationships most people start them from having had a friendship first with their partner. Hanging out with guys like you have been doing will lead to something sooner rather than later.
You just need to relax and go with the flow as all of this will fall in place when it needs to in your life. Be young, creative, and enjoy having as much fun as you can.
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No not at all. If your in high school you do not need to have a boyfriend. Just have fun while you can. Chances are later in your life you won't even remember the relationships you had with boys in high school or even want to. High school is all about fun and you do not need to be locked down with a boyfriend. Do what you want to do.
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no you are not weird .
i mean your friends want to live life with someone special , but the people that are dear to you are your friends and dont let their bfs get in the way of that .
you are smart for not wanting a bf because teenagers take chances and those chances lead to BABIES
hah
but good luck !
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