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No Friends
Ok..the past month i have not hung out with any of my friends. I used to hang out with them every weekend. Like we would have bonfires..go out to eat..go to the movies. But now all of my friends have serious boyfriends. Im talking to a guy but i dont want anything serious with him. I want to hang out with my friends again. Any advice on this?
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something similair to that happened to me last year
me and my 2 best friends would hang out, and then this girl got in on their lives and they completely deserted me
i was extremely depressed for a whole year, but now they are friends with me again and its all ok
but maybe what you should do is ask them to go to the movies or something
maybe plan a sleepover, unless youre too old for that
just let them see that you are trying to make an effort to do something with them, and they probably will do something with you, but sometimes you just have to wait it out
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Jeeze do I know exactly how you feel. This is the exact situation with me every few months or so when all of my friends suddenly get themseles girlfriends. No more meeting up, going out or anything.
Firstly, this guy that you are hanging out with - if you feel he is trying to push things beyond friendship or is hoping/hinting he wants more then you could always say to him that you are not after a boyfriend or anything like that This way he will know exactly where he stands and there won't be any problems when you both hang out.
I think one thing you might be able to do is give all your friends a call and try to arrange a night out, just the girls. You could tell them all it's been a while since you've all been out as a group and it would be nice for everyone to see everyone and chat about things and catch up on stuff. From there you could suggest it be something you all do every once in a while so you all don't lose touch or maybe even tell them how you miss them all and going out with them all.
I'm afraid this is one of the downsides to when all friends get a boyfriend/girlfriend. It's just one of those things that happens and can be okay if you manage to keep the two (friends and bf/gf) balanced.
Pushing friends away is never a good thing (friends are always there but relationships don't come with a guarantee). If something happens to that relationship then they end up with no gf/bf and no friends. That's usually when they realise they shouldn't have pushed their friends away so much.
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Have a girls night out for just you guys so their boyfriends can have a guys night out too.
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Maybe you can have a girls night out.
tell your friends to turn OFF the phones etc.
and maybe go to a movie, go bowling, ice skating, skating, shopping, out to eat. w/e you like to do :)
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