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Guy..not calling/cancelling
I've been going out with this guy for a little bit; a few days ago we hung out and he said he'd call to plan something out for today (Sunday). He didn't call the past few days, neither have I..but he just left me a message that he might have to cancel plans.I can't go out today..but I don't have a good feeling about this- he hasn't kept in touch for a few days, and now he's cancelling. I just have a feeling that I shouldn't make a big deal about him, that he just takes me for granted.
What do you think about all of this? In case it matters, I'm 22. F.
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Sigh... Okay. Allow me to put some common myths to rest.
When a guy likes you... He won't cancel. If he does cancel, he'll have a really good excuse. A really good excuse is NOT, "I'm busy." "I'm busy," is the most frequently used excuse by every man on the planet... And it's a load of crap. Trust me... If he likes you, he'll MAKE the time.
And when a guy likes you... He WILL call.
I know because I have dated quite a bit. And you can bet that my boyfriend doesn't treat me the way this guy treats you.
I know the thought that he doesn't like you might hurt... But don't let it. If he doesn't like you... It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You're fabulous. Why would you want to date a guy that clearly can't realize this fact? Wouldn't you rather date a man that does?
So... My advice is... Stop wasting your time with this guy and go find a guy that will treat you like the princess that you really are. ;) And... Run to the bookstore and buy "He's Just Not That Into You," by Greg and Liz. It's a book of practical dating advice that will make your life so much easier. Promise.
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I think you need to relax. I'm sure he still likes you and wants to hang out but that something came up. You haven't given him any reason to not want to date you so all is likely fine.
His not calling you often is not unusual either. Most people associate at school and do all their planing there or online. He might also be waiting for you to call and wondering what's up.
Before jumping to conclusions wait and see what he does tommorow and if he reschedules. If he doesn't talk to you about it or call go ahead and call him and see where things stand. I assure you, it ll sounds fine to me.
He just might not know how much is too much calling and or what you are thinking about when you haven't tried calling him on your own. It could be all related to that.
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Unfortunately the sad truth is some guys do take their partners for granted and don't really comprehend what they have lost until it's gone (which is why many guys always come crawling back). It may just be that he has been busy with work (if he does work) and since tomorrow is the start of the working week he may have decided not to go out for that reason (early night and such). I think the best course of action would be to talk to him about it. Since this is a problem that is affecting your relationship with him as well as bringing up doubts about you both being together I think you have the right to know if something is wrong or if you are wasting your time in a relationship that will not go anywhere.
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