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Divorce
OK, so im newly single, and very glad that im divorced!! My ex is now going steady with another women, and we have childreen of the ages 5, 4, and 2. I was just wondering how to tell my kids that mammy and daddy dont love eachither any more, and daddy loves another women, that not mommy. I know i shouldn't no, i couldnt lie to them because i love them too much, but i dont want to see them hurt. They have started to ask questions, but ive tried to change the subject because i didnt know what to say. I love my kids dearly, but i want them to know the truth without being hurt.. I know that they will ask lots of questions, about divorce, because they are still too young to know what it means yet, so any back up advice would be greatly appreciated also..
thank you in advance,
Kelcie
oh, and if it helps my ex-husband and i have offically been divorced for 5 days, he moved out 2 days ago.. We got divorced because he was cheating on me, and it has taken 2 months to get all the papers sorted out.
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Your 5 year old knows more than you think. But the 4 and 2 year old do not.
do not overload your children with facts and truths.
There is an old adage that is true: Let the child ask you what he wants to know when he wants to know it.
Tell them that mommy and daddy love each other and will always be their mommy and daddy no matter what--- BUT that mommy and daddy can not live together happy anymore even though you love each other BECAUSE you both are mommy and daddy to THEM.
Now, daddy has a new girlfriend that he might love too and might marry later and when and if they do, then they get a step-mommy and someone else to love them too.
Stop at that. Allow them to ask you questions. If they do not ask questions then your job is done for now and you've satisfied them.
If they do ask more questions, then answer those questions on their level of understanding. If religious at all, use GOD to finalize the answers, as if GOD planned it this way and it is not up to us to question GOD's decisions.
And that someday, you will meet a wonderful man and get married and they will have a new step-daddy that loves them just like their someday step-mommy.
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Well my mum and dad got divorced when I was about 1 year..so I don't remember her telling me anything...but if I had to hear stuff I'd like to hear something like "we're no longer together because of some different reasons. When you get older you'll understand...all you have to know now is that dad and mom love you the same as normal...we just won't be together all the time. But don't worry...we love you the same way"
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hey, well my parents divorced when i was eight years old. it was very hard for me. my mother keep lying to me and avoiding the truth. the best thing for the kids is sitting them all down together and telling them. be there for them if they need to talk and answer all questions. dont lie about the questions either. get through this as a family.
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