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Bad influence friend
I have this friend, let's call her V. I think she's really hilarious and overall a really fun and a good friend. But pretty much everyone in my class hates her because she's annoying. I wouldn't think this is a big problem, but my bf says the reason he doesn't talk to me at school is I'm always with her and we've pretty much broken up because of this. Also, some kids from my class have gotten grudges against me and pretty much everyone just hates me because I'm her friend.
What, oh what should I do? Should I stop being her friend?
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Should you stop being her friend because everyone else doesn't like that you're her friend? Absolutely not! That's exactly what they want you to do, and you can't let them all control you. If you're boyfriend broke up with you because of one girl who's your friend -- he didn't care about you much, if at all. And neither do these other people, who don't like you because she's your friend.
I wouldn't even worry about those other people, because they're not worth your time, nor your friend's time. So stick with being her friend, and forget about everyone else. If they were really your friends, they wouldn't care if she's your friend or not. It wouldn't even cross their minds.
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The last thing you should ever do is stop being her friend. What others think should not matter at all to you. If they don't like her that's their problem and not yours.
They just don't understand her like you do. You see the good in her and are having fun being with her. Don't let anyone else change this. I thinbk this girl needs your friendship more than you will ever know.
Your classmates have not figured out why she is different and that's why they don't like her. They're afraid of her and dont get what she is all about.
I think she may have a learning problem that is undiagnosed or social issues that are related to some kind of problem that she cannot control well or doesn't see as a problem. She may come across as loud and annoying at times but to her it's normal.
I think you ought to be a good friend and tell her that a lot of your peers treat her badly because of X, Y, Z and that you want to help her to make friends and learn how to act around people and what not to do. Tip her off about her social skills or lack there of being a problem and try to help her.
Your boyfriend is a JERK for ditching you over you being friends with her. Be happy to be free of him as he would have proven wrong for you regardless. You aren't missing anything. Trust me on that.
Your classmates are awfully shallow people and not worthy of your time or hers. Eventually they will come around but don't worry if they do not. You won't need them and principal as well as morality should dictate that you stand by this girl no matter what. she's teaching you the value of a true friend.
The greatest thing you could do is help change her life and fortunes at school by helping her. I think this might be divine intervention and a role you were meant to play.
This is no big deal or problem unless you make it into one. Who gives a shit what ignorant people around you are thinking? If they won't get to know her for who she is than it's their loss.
Proceed normally with the friendship and maybe, just maybe it will teach them all something about how foolish they are.
You are leaps and bounds above your classmates intellectually and in five years you won't be able to remember half of them. They'll still be stuck in the same place ignorant as ever unless forced to change. Don't become like them.
If people hold grudges against you for being someone else's friend let them know in no uncertain terms that you do not need them and stick to your guns because you absolutely do not need them.
You will find friends will flock to you and this girl in the end but they won't be the popular kids and jerks you are tlking about. They will be people genuinely grateful for your friendship and worthy of it.
Look for kids in your school that could use a friend and start building your friend's friendships around them and yours as well. You're both better off than any of the kids bothering the two of you.
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Basically, this is a good time to figure out your true friends and your fake ones. you shouldn't stop being that "annoying" person's friend if you really enjoy that person's company! And only your true friends will stick with you. But if you don't like that friend a lot and that person isn't special to you, you don't need to hang out with her as much. Maybe your friends are also kind of jealous that you've been spending a lot of time with her. Tell her that you need some space sometimes so you can be with both. (:
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This is a hard one. first of all try talking to her about whats annoying about her... she prob. isnt annoyin on purpose, but thinks its the way to "fit in" so try talking to her and try getting her to stop doing whatever she does, then try talking with others especially your boyfriend into giving her another chance, hopefully it'll all work out but if it doesnt, which theres a good possibility dont exactly STOP being friends with her, but just try to hang around other people more and like if you guys go to parties try to talk to everyone else and her a little but dont hang around her ALL the time but dont avoid her because she is your friend and in the end you shouldnt care what other people think of you because of how many friends you have or who your friends are. But tryin talking to her.. then slowly grow apart a little so she can be more independent on you!
hope it helps
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I think that if you're REALLY good friends with her, it doesn't matter what other people think or say. But if she's just a decent friend, just try to pry away from her slowly.
Jess♥
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