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should i or not
hi i know this is really long buti just need to know!! im 16 and a soph in hs..i like this girl that im really close friends with alot and ive told her before how i feel and she said she just doesnt want to risk our friendship...i told her i would never let that happen but she said she didnt kno and now she has a senior bf of about 4 months and i really care for her..ive tried other girls but none compare to her..thers just something about her that keeps pulling me back...should i tell her and risk getting her away from her boyfriend and maybe with me or do i risk it and have the possibility of ruining a chance of her...ps we are supposed to hang out this comming weekend so should i do it now or after we hang out or when we hang out..thanks so much in advance
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well i would tell her how you feel most deffentaly. When you do it? well i say after you hang out. And if shes still going out with that senior then i realize it'll be a lot harder. but you should just tell her how you feel. and spill out everything. If she still says she dosn't want to ruin the friendship, then tell her your willing to put that on the line, b/c you know taht having her will make you soo much happier. But also tell her that you don't want it to ruin the friendship neither. But i know how it is to kinda be in the spot.
&& while i said just tell her..you also have to think of what you really really want. A friendship that'll last forever, or being more for possibly a small amount of time?
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For now, all you can do is respect the fact she wants to keep your friendship, as it is. And I understand that it's really hard to see someone that you love, fall in love with someone else. But time is what you have to give the situation. Nothing really more you can do. Respect her space, and most importantly BE THERE for her when she's crushed or hurt by her boyfriend. To show how he didn't deserve her and tell her positive things about her personality and looks. Ask her to hang out more often, and as for that weekend you'll be seeing her, tell her how much you REALLY care for her and you will accept the rejection or acception because you want to be with her a lot of the time. But keep in mind, that she is not trying to hurt you, she wants to keep your friendship because she loves you (as a friend). And doesn't want either of you to get hurt, when friends become more than that it can hurt like heck when it's over.
So good luck!
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hey, well you told her that you had feelings for you and obviously she wasn`t interested if she now has a senior boyfriend [no offense]. i think that you would definately ruin the friendship if you tried to come between her and her boyfriend. trust me, life will be better when your friends with her, rather than not speaking at all and that will happen if you get between her and her boyfriend. just stay out of it completly and if your meant to be, things will work out perfectly :].
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that is a tough situation i am sure but i am sure for her it is even harder. As of right now she has a boyfriend so it is best that you dont mess with that if you truely care about her. Eventually her and her boyfriend will break up and you can be there as the best guy friend to see her through it all chicks dig that kinda thing. But if you cant wait make up an amazing speech to say to her. The best thing you can do is wait for her and possibly showing less interest will make her interested in you explore your options with other chicks as of now, possibly youll find someone you never knew was out there. What she needs right now is a friend so be a friend. Therefore, my advice is to not give up just be patient and all will come to you in time.
good luck,
Brittni
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