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What do I do?
I figured out that I'm a lesbian. and i'm so afraid to tell my mom cause I'm afraid that she will hate me. What do I do?
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Mom's can't hate their kids. They can be frustrated with or dissapointed in or freaked out by or worried for their kids, but they will always always always always love their kids. Don't expect her to immediately understand and accept it. Chances are she may need time to adjust to the reality. She will likely mourn the loss of her dream of what she imagined you would do with your life. Let her mourn it. Then, show her that you want and need her to be a part of your life as YOU imagine it. It is your life and your dream to live it as you choose and with the convictions and truths that are real for you. There is integrity in living a truthful life and being who you are unashamedly. I respect your courage in wanting to be honest with your mom. It shows that you also respect her. Tell her this.
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I am a 29 yr old mom of girls ages 10 and 9. I have always told myself that if they are bisexual or lesbian i will accept them no matter what and will be fine wtih their relationships. As long as their significant other treats them and me with respect and love that is all that i want for my daughters.I wish that all mothers could have my free thinking. Unfortunately that is not the case, I agree with fishing the idea around with her for a while rather than coming straight out.Keep your relationships low key, just let her think you are too shy to date guys for now and have sleepovers maybe??? You have to feel the situation out for now... if she loves you there wont be any love lost..
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You need to tell your mom how you feel and tell her the truth. She's your mom and she is going to love you no matter what. She might be shocked but you would just have to give her time to accept it. After all, you will always be her daughter and just because you're a lesbian doesn't mean your mom will stop caring about you. Just take your time and tell her when you're ready.
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Aw, she won't hate you...If you want, don't tell her and let her have suspicions. That way she'll find out about it gradually and not all of a sudden like a slap on her face or something.
She's your mother. She will accept who you are because she loves you. =)
I'm telling you this though - when she finds out, it's gonna be really tough for her at first. Like, she might tell you to keep it low when you're around your family relatives or something. Don't worry, it will all go away.
Best of luck, let me know what happens, k? =)
Kay.
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