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NEED HELP: I am thin and today when I came home from work I changed into a tee-shirt but wore the same pants I wore to work. She asked me as I sat down to eat if I lost weight, and I said no, but this upset me. I said to her that she always tells me I look beautiful. She said you do look beautiful but your pants look bigger. And she told me that I am skinny enough. However, I feel as if she is telling me to gain weight and I look ugly -- is this in my mind and am I overreacting. HELP" WHEN I ASKED MY FRIENDS THEY SAID THAT IF MY MOM WANTED ME TO GAIN WEIGHT SHE WOULD KEEP PESTERING ME TO EAT OR SAY YOU ARE NOT EATING ENOUGH AND SHE NEVER DOES THAT TO ME - SHE ALWAYS ASKS ME IS THAT THE RIGHT AMOUNT
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It sounds as though your mother thinks you look fine but is scared of your reactions to her saying anything to you about your weight, clothes, jewellery, food portions etc.
Your friends have all said you look fine to them, and you really must start accepting this. The next time you feel someone has said something offensive to you, try looking in a mirror. If you are happy with what you see, take that reassurance. It really does not matter what anyone thinks about you as long as you can be happy.
I'm sure you do not want to make your family and friends scared to talk to you in case you react badly to them, so you must start to have more confidence in yourself. They say you look beautiful, accept it! Not many people get that said to them, so treasure the compliments and let any perceived criticisms go. Life is too short to worry about them. :)
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Well, if they think you are losing weight and your not just say that. My friend has the same problem, what i think is, maybe you should ignore that when it comes up and just change the subject. Your not really overreacting, because i would feel the same way if somebody did that to me. One more thing, your friends are right if you weren't eating enough, your mom would tell you to eat more. So don't worry about a thing! I hope i helped!
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