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How to deal
15/F
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There was this guy who liked me I guess, so I walk the same way home as him, and he starts walking with me. I didn't mind it that much, and then he started with the hand around the shoulder, still didn't mind it. Then he started pretty much hugging me really tight, while I'm trying to walk home. When I got home, after him pretty much not letting me move in anyway, or being able to kick/punch him. He asked me out, I said I liked someone else, and he basically got really bitter and started to ignore me. He never said anything about how he feels yet he does that[recap]
Now, a few days ago again, he walked with me. Did the hand on shoulder thing, hugging etc. Then when we got to my house, he pretty much started to put his hands up my sweater and tickling me. That crossed the line, I do not understand why he would do so because he knows I don't like him. I told him to stop but you know... weird guys + hormones. It was scary IMO. Then he kept asking me what I was doing over the weekend, and asked me if I still liked that person, and then he started to ask like 50 questions.
What do I do about this person :|
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Don't let him touch you at all. No hand on the shoulder or hugging, no nothing. Even though those things may be okay with you, the more you let him touch you, the more he thinks that it's okay. In other words, you're leading him on. I know you don't mean to and you may not even think that you are, but it doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what he thinks. You need to be very clear with him and you may even want to consider threatening to report him to the police if he touches you again. Don't get me wrong, it's not your fault, it's 100% his, but if you deal with it correctly, you can stop it. Good luck! <3
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how did you tell him to stop? the right way to do it is to be very firm, but be nice. if you didn't do this, tell him again to stop, and if he doesn't, tell one of your teachers. it may seem a little embarrassing, but do it b4 itz too late.
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Don't walk with him anymore. Don't talk to him anymore. Don't waste your time on someone who you don't like and who makes you uncomfortable.
He's creepy and he's not taking the hint. So make it a bit stronger then a hint. Don't tell him you are interested in someone else, that gives the stupid boy hope. Tell him you are simply and completely not interested in him!
It's great to spare a person's feelings, but when someone makes you uncomfortable it's time to just shoot them down, quickly and brutally.
If he still doesn't back down, tell your parents or a teacher. His behavoir is way out of line.
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He's definitely crossed the line. You must terminate any and all friendly relations with him NOW. His behavior is sending up all kinds of red flags, and you definitely have cause for concern.
For whatever reason, this guy has a very messed-up idea on the right way to deal with people. I wouldn't be surprised if he has some kind of social disorder. Whatever the case, his advances toward you have been neither considerate nor appropriate, and you must cut him off cold. He doesn't get to put his arm around you anymore, or walk home with you, or touch you in any way. Any personal questions he asks must receive the same answer: "That's none of your business." Do not initiate conversations with him or respond with more than the bare minimum when he talks to you. You must do absolutely NOTHING that will give him the slightest encouragement. Any leeway you give him will be interpreted as an invitation to go further.
I strongly suggest you get your parents involved, or if that's not possible, talk to an adult from your school. It's my opinion that this kid needs some psychological counseling, and the sooner he gets it the better.
Hopefully, something constructive will be done so that you don't have to deal with him any longer. If he does continue to hassle you, though, start keeping a record of his transgressions, and report them when they are sufficiently severe (touching you without permission, stalking you, verbal attacks). The purpose of all this is that you may need to eventually take legal action or otherwise prove your case against him, and it's going to come down to your word against his. If you have documented evidence, it will weight things in your favor.
It may sound like I'm being overly dramatic, and that may be the case, but in a situation like this it's better to be too careful than not careful enough. It's my opinion that you need to view this kid as a threat to you, and you must protect yourself.
I don't know how to say this without sounding way over-the-top, but the fact is that in this day in age, high-school students occasionally shoot each other when they don't get their way.
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