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no friends... at all.
i dont know why but i have no friends. seriously, i dont mean that i have a few friends.. i seriously have none, well except on the internet. i dont know why but like everywhere at school nobody likes me. not even the loser kids or the populars. like nobody . i dont know what im doing wrong.. i mean ive only had one school friend and that was four years ago in third grade, and then she had to move to a different state. it sucks.. i dont know what to do.. i mean you just canth ave internet friends. my parents worry about me alot. ive joined clubs and such in school but they treat me the same.. like they dont really like me, really acknoledge me.. and stuff. ive even joined like friendship clubs in school and out of school, even with people i dont know. but like.. its not really the same like that. i dont even really click with the people but who am i kidding at this point i'll take anyone as a friend. i just read in class and etc so that i wont be too loneley and just stand there.. somedays i feel so bad i want to kill myself. what is wrong with me? ive tried getting a new wardrobe, or just being myself.. nothing seems to work. they. just. dont. like. me. am i hopeless? what can i do? i mean like in gym class your internet friends arent gonna be there so you can partner with them and not be the "extra" person that has to join a group with people who'd rather not have you there. -sigh-
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NO. DONT try to fit in with the crowd. If you look at this in another matter,your lucky no one knows you,no,let me finish,i know what your thinking,but i say you lucky,because you have the chance,to actually mold your personality your self. Get a camera,trust me,takeing pictures is the best hobby,and lots of people like it to. Try to be different. while being you. you can do anything you want at this time. Start talking. its your chance to show people who you are.Start laughing. its your chance to proove your just like anyone else. Start venting [to close close close ones you can trust-this might take awhile] and they'll open up more to you. NEVER let people walk over you,show them your strong,and state your opinon,and agree with people at times. Get into music. Your first step is to find out who you are.And what you like. I know,you feel like your just there,right? Well not anymore,your not going to be the same old "boring" person anymore. I'd get a new haircut,dye my hair,wear funky,cools jewlery,and just be myself.thats just me,what i want to do. So ask yourself, what do you want to do? Theres no one holding you back,and you shouldnt be afraid of what people think! Start writeing. Everything happens for a reason; trust me. i've learned this. You have to start things,and its scary at first,it is. Dont give short answers,dont say "soo" or "hmm" because those fill in words make things more awkward. Just laugh. Smile as much as you can. Maybe you could try make up,and playing around ,its a good thing to do when your bored. Everyone has that thing that makes people like them,but you have to find it,or at least find some of it. You have to be more outgoing. It may seem impossible,but achievable. I know this might not have made sence,sorry,but its through expierience. Also always add something in the conversation. kay?!
hope i helped
good luck! and know there are lots of people just like you!
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you remind me of myself!i moved to a diffrent stae 2 years ago, and another county a few months ago. I didnt know anyone and i was scared and alone, or atleaast thats how i felt. one day, i was sitting there doing my work, alone and silent, and decided enough was enough. i know you feel the same way. so what you should do is what i did. If your in class, ask people abou the assignment. If you ask a bunch of diffrent people, then you could see how other people react to you. If they seem nice, then you should approach them more. I know that you might be shy or nervous, but the only way you can do something, is to do it for youself. hope i helped.
Joss
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Firstly i want to address the self worth issue. it's a tough one when you feel like that. i do from time to time and i don't mean to sound negative but the only thing that always makes me feel better is that Jesus loves me totally. you are not worthless and the fact you have internet friends tells me your personality is likable, but i would expect so anyway. no one should feel like killing themselves. ever. please don't feel like that, its not true that life is so bad you need to end it. you're not hopeless.
i think the problem at school is that everyone now sees you as the girl who hangs out with no one. they probably think this means you are not likable when actually you are, they just don't know you, so during any time they spend with you they are judging you so cannot get to know you for who you really are. this is just because they are judgemental and really not worth bothering with for now.
you are right that your internet friends are not the same, and i think a good way (one of the best) to meet/make new friends is to join a club/ take a class/take up a sport or hobby of your choice. if there is something which interests you do that e.g. if you like exercise take up an interesting and challenging new sport. only you know what you enjoy. if possible try and take a class with people of similar age to you. you will already have something to talk about with the people you meet and you will have things in common. these people will not know you so it is a clean break, be yourself and you'll see you're likable, and awesome! believe it! it's true! i promise.
hope this helps,
laura xxx
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If you're truthfully being yourself then i dont see any reason for someone to not be your friend. you changing your wardrobe and trying to hard is not going to make people like you anymore. Just be open & honest, have a sense of humor, help someone when they need it. If you see someone crying in school ask them if there alright, if you see someone struggling with some school work ask if they need your help. Show them that you are a caring person. Because if i know anything, its about friendships. I have had friends come and go, and others who wouldnt even give me a second glance to be my friend, and im okay with that. When people see who you really are, they will want to get to know you. Your going to see throughout you're entire life some people wont accept you for who you are, and you cant worry about that you just have to continue with what you are, and everything you want to be.
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I feel so BAD for you..
Not 1 friend I feel your pain...
Try to interact with them try to fit in the crowd... I know its hard but your gonna have to come out of that shell you could make friends if you just connect with them in the right way I mean you dont have to change just try to have another side if that doesn't work just have your mom transfer you because you cant live life without at least 1 friend....
hope i helped
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