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never ending rollar coaster
Well, so there's this guy and we are best friends, i think. it's really confusing we've been best freinds for a year now and he has these mood swings like a woman. So anyways i just went up north for 5 days and he tells me when i get back that he dosnt miss me. but now my other best friend says that while i was gone he said this really mean stuff about me. Now just this wendesday which was the day i got back my best friend goes away. then she tells me that he sent her a text saying. - hey are you having fun yet I MISS YOU- it hasnt even been a day yet. now these guys have dated before and they found that it was a bad idea. so they dont like each other anymore. O and when we talk hes always bragging about how hes talked to her more and she blah blah with her more. It makes me so mad please help me understnad whats going on with him i feel like we are like an never ending rollar coaster.
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Hey. Sometimes people find one person to pick on because it makes them feel better about themselves. I know you said you feel like he's your best friend but if he told you he didn't miss you when you came back home than that is NOT a best friend. Your other friend may have made up the part about him saying mean things about you to cause trouble but he very well could have. If he constantly has mood swings where sometimes he's mean, sometimes he's nice than he's putting you in a miserable situation and making you upset because of his faults. Also, if he's always complementing your other friend and not you than he is hurting you in that way too. I would ignore him and just act like everythings o.k. but be casual friends or just say hi to him whenever you see him but I deffinitely wouldn't hang out with him anymore. And if you're other friend is mean to you about it than that's not a friend. But if she doesn't care or doesn't mention it than that's great. It might be hard at first but eventually he may get the hint and ask you what's wrong. That is the time when you can tell him. I've had a friend just like this but it was a girl and I finally ended the friendship. It wasn't until months later that she apologized, admitted she was wrong, and told me how much she missed me. I would either end the friendship or at least take a break from him. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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If he was talking shit about you behind your back, then confront him about it. Did you hear it from a reliable source? Maybe she said that to you because she's jealous that you guys are friends. Some girls are just evil or whatever, so they do that stuff to manipulate you & ruin your friendships. Just ask him up front, and if he really said it then you what kind of friend he is.
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hey, alright so youve heard he has said mean things about you. who did you hear it from? was it from a usually reliable source? if so you need to confront your "best friend" about it. ask him if he has been talking about you behind your back. if he has then hes not a very good "best friend". if you found out that its true, have a talk with him. if he isnt willing to change, ditch him. i know its going to be hard, but you dont need someone like that in your life at all. if its not true, you should talk to that girl hes hitting on. tell her that it makes you jealous and that if she doesnt like him, tell him and set the facts straight. also speak with the guy about that.
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