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My best friends and her bf
please help.
i will try to make this short for you guys haha. My best friend who i've been friends with since kindergarten got her first boyfriend about a month ago.(we're freshman) Yeah, it's cute and everything, but holy mother of god it can get annoying. It's Sean this, Sean that (her bf). It's non stop details about them and how awesome everything is. All days it's "has he been looking at me...do you think he likes my shirt? what about my hair?" goodness... And then i have to hear about all the stuff he says to her about him loving her and stuff. and she sends me long emails and crap with buttloads of info about their conversations and i cannot take it. I've addressed her politely about it and we're open about things with one another, but she won't stop. IMAGINE NON-STOP QUESTIONS LIKE "ok if sean and my relationship were weighed on a scale on how much he likes me...would our relationship be a sumo wrestler or an annorexic girl?" Yeah. I ignored that one. And it sucks because i just broke up with someone recently and i hate that everything is shoved in my face like that. I am not in anyway jealous, and i know that because i am secure with myself and i do not wish to be in any sort or "relationship" right now. Help please. There are no signs that this mindless chatter between she and an annoyed, attempting-to-ignore-her-me , is going to die down anytime soon.
p.s. i am sorry it is so long. i know i said it wasnt going to be so long! =/
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LOL! Don't worry about it being to long! :D
ANYWAY. First of all your BFF is just excited about having her first boyfriend and she wants everything to turn out perfect, and she wants to BLURT it out to everyone.
I think that you should listen to her, and then respond. THEN, you can try to change the subject. Or you could just say, "Listen, you sound like you have a lot to say about Sean, maybe you should write it all in a journal or something!" (unless she already has...)
You have to understand that she is new at this kind of thing and that many things that she says could sometimes be repetitive and NONSENSE! (lol) When she is saying something that is annoying you ask about a class she's taking. Or say something like, "Did you know that Jimmy farted in class today!?" Try to make her laugh and/or try to change the subject to something she would like to talk about. (BESIDES Sean! LOL!)
Your gonna always have to listen to what your BFF has to say because that's what friends are for. She trusts you and she looks up to you, THAT'S why she's always saying things to you. I bet she asks you a lot of questions like if it's ok to say this or to do that. Right?
So try that and see what happens. ;)
PS: This message was REALLY long! :D LOL!
-AJ
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Oh Lord..
That's..awful. I'm terribly sorry you have to put up with that.
Seeing as you've already tried to be nice about it and that didn't work-- be blunt.
Let's say your name is Jamie..and hers is Amber, kay?
Amber: So..how's my hair? Sean's coming over here soon. Is it okay?
Jamie: He likes you,doesn't he? It's fine.
Amber: Well, I mean-- if he doesn't like it--
Jamie: The worst he can do is break up with you..Then what? You find somebody beter and shove it in his face?
Amber: But I love him!
Jamie: Amber, we're freshman. You've been together a month--get over it. I'm tired of hearing about all your crap.
Amber: You're just jealous!
Jamie: Pfft. I wish that was all I am..But I'm leaning more towards the whole, nauseated, irritated that my best friend won't shut up feelings, catch my drift?
Amber: Do you like Sean or something? Is that what all this is about?
Jamie: Yes, Amber. I like Sean. That is why I can't stop talking about him. That's why I'm his girlfriend.
Amber: WHAT?!
Jamie: Amber, get over yourself. Sean isn't THAT great.
I hope it helped.. You might not be that blunt, but it's always worked for me. It gets your point across.
p.s. it wasn't THAT long-- at least it didn't take me fifteen minutes to read.
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no its not to long its intresting actually. poor baby i know how you feel. youve got to explain to her that you know she loves her boyfriend, and that its fun to freak out when a boy likes you, but you just ended a relationship and its difficult for you. tell her you love her to death, and your not annoyed with her at all, but you are annoyed with all the Sean talk and you know your going to start resenting (hating) her if it dosent stop soon
good luck! tell me how it all works out!
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So, I know it'll be hard, because you don't want to hurt her feelings or anything, but i would tell her how you feel. she's your friend, she'll understand. i have a friend that does the same thing, and you're right it gets soo old, but after i talked to her about it, and told her exactly what i felt, she cut down a lot. so just try that. let me know how things go =]
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