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girl trouble
my name is Jay i'm 13/m/north carolina. I extremely like this girl and when i finally ask her out, she rejects me. SHe was the girl of my dreams!! That was about 2 weeks ago but i still like her. What should i do?
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You get over it because she doesn't like you. Find another girl of your dreams, I guarentee you'll find about 20 more since you're only 13.
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it may seem like the end of the world but trust me, shes not the only person that will take your breath away. be patient and the real love of ure life will come along
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I'm going to assume that she's probably also around 13 years old. That's pretty young to start dating. She might not be ready to go out with anybody yet, or she may be ready but not allowed to. In other words, it's not necessarily a personal rejection.
If it IS personal, though, all hope is not lost. People change a great deal during their teen years, and the person you become may very well end up being the sort of person she will become attracted to. You can improve your chances by taking some positive steps.
Don't allow yourself to get all melancholy and depressed about her. That won't help, and she's certainly not going to change her mind out of pity. See what you can do to remain a visible part of her life; say hello to her when you pass her in the hall, sit close to her in classes (not next to her, that's too pushy), and if you find that she's interested in something that you are too, see if you can use that to bring you into closer contact. Example: if she's in the drama club, and you like that sort of thing too, join the same club. Do NOT join something that you don't like just to be close to her, though - that's not being true to yourself, and insincerity is very unattractive.
Give it at least one full year, unless she gives some sign that you're starting to interest her. (Note - during that time, don't forget that there are other girls out there, and you may find someone who attracts you more than whats-her-name ever did!)
Then start going out of your way to talk to her. Offer small (sincere) compliments and occasionally get caught staring at her. Finally, when it seems the time is right, ask her out again. Maybe she will have changed her mind.
Most important: if she starts acting like you bother her, STOP. It's very irritating for someone to be the target of unwanted attention, and you certainly don't want her telling all her friends what a jerk you are, or you'll never get ANYONE to go out with you. It may be that she will simply never feel any measure of attraction to you, and you will just have to live with that. Know when to quit, and you will spare yourself a lot of headache and heartache.
But hey, you can always hope!
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aww tht sucks, but i would just try and get over her, and try and show her what she is missing. like maybe talking to her, like try and create a friendship. hope i helped. :]
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ok well i hope i can help.
if you like this girl soo much you might want to show her what guy you realy are. but i wouldnt want to ask her out again right away try being a friend first. that should help you a lot! hope it did. sry if it didnt.
~spice~
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