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recentyl had sex and now fighting
I lost my virginity to one of my guy friends on jan.7th. We were fine and talked a couple times a week up till yesterday. He sent me a text message yesterday and was telling me how he liked one of our friends and wanted my input on what he should do. I obviously told him that i wouldnt tell him what i thought because i care alot about him and dont want to see them together.
He told me that i knew that i was just a one time thing and i need to get over it. i got really upset and started flipping out on him. He said i was just a booty call and i should of kept my legs closed and quit throwing myself on him.
(he is the one that Asked me out that night, hes the one that wanted to have sex with me)
Im really upset and i cant handle this anymore. Its the second time in three months that he has used me.
Im begging you guys to help me out here.
18/f
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ok it takes two to have sex and he doesnt seem like a good friend.i have guy friends but i also dont like anyof them so its alittle diffrent but one thing is for sure they dont act like that. and if he asked you out then obviously he mislead you in thinking that it would be a relationship so i guess it wasnt clear that it was a one time thing. he doesnt deserve you that girl or any one else. just see it as a mistake and cut him off as a loss. anyone who truly your friend wouldnt be trying to get in your pants and treating you like that.this is the second time ok he's using you for what he can get hes not your friend and doesnt care so hes not worth it. dont let him do this to you anymore and stay away from him.
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It seems to me that this guy is a jerk. ANd i know you care about him, so you need to really evaluate yourself on how much you can really take. BUt the fact that he was willing to admit that you were a 'booty call', means that he doesnt care about your feelings. PLease im begging you dont ever have sex with him again. My advice is to disown him completely or for w little while, because honestly if you dont, he will think that it is ok to take advantage of you just because he knows that you like him. SO distance yourself from him, and close ties (it doesnt have to be all). And since you still care about him, you can maybe say hi to him everyday, or everyweek. Just try to slowy take him out of your life. I hope you feel better.
Take care of yourself
Hope I helped
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First thing is it takes two to tango so on that night you both wanted it and he should of not led you on like that if he didn't like you other then a mate. Its a shame that you lost your V's to a male-slag i bet you think he is a right pig and im not surprised you flipped if it was me i would of done the same but now its up to you i know you feel used and hurt but you should put it behind you and pertend it never happened as getting mad at him won't stop the way you feel just play him at his own game make out to him your fine with everything and your over him so he thinks your sound with him and start flirting with his mate or another guy infront of him that way he will see what he has through away and you never know he's attiitude may change once he see's you in another guys arms. Again im sorry about what has happened and i hope i have helped you good luck.
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Honestly, you should NOT be friends with someone like that. It's very sad that you lost your virginity to a womanizing manwhore, but hopefully you learned your lesson. Sex is the most intimate thing you can do with someone else, so I highly recommend that you have an intimate relationship with whoever you choose to do it with, namely someone you are in love with. Every girl deserves to be treated like a princess by her man, not like a piece of trash. Basically that guy's an asshole and doesn't deserve your attention so don't give it to him. And honestly 90 percent of guys out there are assholes, so be careful about who you get close to. Hope this helps. Good luck!
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one thing that you need to learn, is that every man is different and they always want something from you. its important that you save it till you meet the right guy because that will be the person who will stick by your side and never will he use you for anything. you dont need to worry about him any more if he wants to treat you the way he did and use you twice dont bother with him because thats not a true friend. its not your fault that you liked him, its the fact that he had something with you and decided to push you away after that, he just doesnt know that he's gonna miss out on someone as good as you. so i say since he treated you like that you treat him like that, give him the cold shoulder and see how he likes it. i hope you can put the past in the past and move on towards the future.
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Aww honey that sucks. I'd go ape shit on his ass too.
First of all, I'd write him off. If you still have feelings about him, get over them. I've seen girls in your situation and they keep going back to the same guy always thinking it'll be different from then on but it never is. This guy is a jerk. It's not your fault, it's his fault.
Secondly, you can have sex with anyone you want. It's your life. You don't need to make excuses to him or anybody. It's just a stereotype that guys should get more action than girls and it's getting old. You can be who you want to be and if he doesn't care about you at all, he should've kept his legs closed instead of whoring around.
What you should do now is tell the friend that he likes. Tell her that he used you for sex when you lost your virginity to him because you wanted to lose it with someone yout trusted. Warn her about him and tell your other friends too so they start shutting him out.
News about players travel fast around school. Pretty soon, he'll have a bad reputation and he won't be able to hurt any more girls.
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if hes going to be scumbag like that and use them.. then screw him.. boys are just pigs.. i think that you should give him the cold shoulder if he tries to talk to you agian.. im sure if you look alittle more youll find a great guy who wont use you or treat you like your not worth anything. caude you are .. every girl is worth something.. and you might not be able to change the oast you had with him.. but you can change what will come up next.. so just beleive in yourself that you can do better and try and move on from that scumbag
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Guys are slobs-
he's using you for sex
He used you once, and you crawled back to him- so he knows that he can always keep using you, and you'll keep crawling back...
Don't hook up with him again. My advice also is to not have sex with anyone until you are married.
Please take my advice seriously
Hope I helped
--Jack
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