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Losing my self confidence
After a brutual breakup with my boyfriend
(one month ago)
I've noticed I haven't had hardly any of the
self-confidence I had before our realtionship.
Now a days, I find myself skipping meals,
complaining about my looks, and drowning myself
in wishes to be prettier. I'm actually
a decent looking person, I used to have
self-confidence. I hardly cared what people
said or thought about me, I was always crazy
and outgoing, doing something to make people
laugh.
Now, I spend hours infront of a mirror
complaining about my looks. I compare myself
to prettier people, I think twice before
I dare do anything funny, and I'm ALWAYS
of afraid of being embarressed!
How do I get my old self back?
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Get him out of your mind. Don't let the break up get to you like that.
As for the self-confidence part... don't worry about your looks. With me, I hated the way I looked and wanted to change so badly - I knew I was never the talk at the girls table. When I get hit with problems, I try to be as optimistic as I can, which is what you should try to do.
Lets say I could look like any guy I wanted to, change my features and make myself look better than the stars. I thought to myself: wow, wouldn't that make things so much better...wouldn't the girls actually like me? But I thought about it some more and realized that I'd hate that, I'd hate that a lot.
Now I accept the way I am and I'm happy about it, regardless of what others think. I've had a bunch of girls tell me that they aren't as pretty as some other girl, so they aren't as popular. They thought that was bad, but I told them it was good. For the things that really matter (sorry if you aren't into that kinda stuff), why would you ever want somebody to like you for what you look like? You don't. At any rate, if anybody did like you, it would be for better reasons than just the appearance.
The hottest guy at school could turn out to be the meanest, coldest, unloving, unforgiving, filthiest person you could ever imagine. Changes the image a bit, doesn't it? So do looks matter that much? No. Should they? Nope. Does Hollywood, the media, and society agree with that idea? Not at all. They immortalize people who (to them) look good. Why? Envy, spite, and because they can make money off it.
Sorry to digress. Back to your question on how to get your old self back. Try to have fun! It seems like you always tried to make the best of a moment and just get a good laugh. Do that again. Do the funny crazy wild things you used to do, and don't even think about what others might say. You didn't before and you still had fun. Don't spend time feeling sorry for yourself. People are remembered and loved for who they are and the things they do - not the clothes they wear or the looks they have. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Well if someone insults you, you'd probaly defend yourself, so do the same when you have these wishes. If you need support tell your friends. Have a "spa" day and have fun. Just remember that if you felt beautiful before then you are now. It may be breakup stress.
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You're not over your ex-boyfriend that's for sure. You are letting the break-up really get to you in ways that affect you so much. You need to learn how to stand on your own two feet again and that you do not need a guy in your life to be happy. Go out with your closest friend, have a girls night out. Try something new. You need to let go of the past, that is the only way you will truely be yourself again. It may be hard right now but it will get easier. You are letting your thoughts take over you. You need to stop looking at life from such a negative perspective.
Sit down and make a list of all the things you love about yourself. I'm sure there are plenty but you're just not letting yourself see it. List all the things you're good at. List all the things you want to accomplish in life. You have to let go of the past. Stop being so afraid and take a risk. You have to face your fears, that is the only way you will get rid of them.
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Try dating again.
getting more friends
and throwing away the past.
go to more parties
try to be outgoing
an don't think twice
it's all in your head
go to yoga classes if needed to clear your head
and really if no one says your ugly
then don't think it
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mistywasgreat
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