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Should I come out to him?
I've been in love with this one guy for six years, but hes more like a brother to me than anything else. He's going to college in May and i really really really want my chance with him before he leaves. I don't know if I should go for it because I don't want to kill the friendship. You don't understand. I mean, I'm IN LOVE with him. Help me!!
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I think you should make a Pros and Cons about this situation. One thing might lean you towards being with him, while the others might not. Here are something's that might be a problem, if you guys started going out:
Since he's going to College in May it might be hard. May is only a few months away. Depending on how far the College is or not, it might get difficult. Long distance relationships aren't always good and it depends on how much you love one another to make it actually work. The thing is if you love him so much and you're together... yeah, you'll have fun for the couple of months he is home. But, once he goes to College you're back to where you started; without him. You'll be so used to having him around then he would have to leave to go to College.
You said he's more like a brother to you. Does he concider you to be a sister? If so, I really wouldn't suggest taking this relationship any further than what it is. Most of the time when good friends get together and break up (if that were to happen) they don't speak, or they feel too weird around another. Then the friendship you once had changes and you're never the same around one another again.
On the other hand, this guy may not be the right person for you. Him going to College in May might be a good thing for you. Maybe it'll open your eyes to new guys and you'll be able to find a new crush. All I'm saying is think about this and see which option would be best. You don't want to risk losing such a close friend (especially once you concider to be a brother), but you don't want to give up on someone you love. Love only comes around once in awhile. If this is true love, don't give up. Follow your heart, but take your brain with you.
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well hunn if you like him you need to tell him & if he likes you you can go out with him but if you never tell him youll never get the chance && even if he doesnt like you he should understand you & still be friends
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Oh. Having been on the straight side of this equation, I'd have to say you should find out how he feels about homosexuality and whether he's interested in boys (bi or gay) before you spring it on him that you want a relationship with him. You may not expect it, but he may be both your friend and gay and still not be interested in a relationship with you as well. If you do say something, even if he has nothing against homosexuality and nothing against you sleeping with guys, he may feel betrayed, as if you've just been with him all of this time to seduce him (I'm not saying that's the truth, by the way). He may feel uncomfortable continuing the relationship because he would question what you say and how you act around him. He may question his own feelings for you and become confused about his own sexuality. i.e. 'If I love him and he's gay and I know that, does that make ME gay?' Be careful. Let him know that you'd never try to force more out of the relationship and if he says no, that will be the end of the conversation. That is your best chance of keeping the friendship while trying to find out whether there could be more.
Been there. Done that.
Sabine
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well,i think you should consider the consequences with being with him as a boyfriend.I mean figure out whether your friendship is more important because if the relationship was to end in a bad way,its a big chance that you all wont be friends again.Would you risk your friendship?Perhaps you should just tell him how you feel,you never know if he feels the same way about you.Also,if its meant to be,then it shall be..no matter how long it takes.Stop keepping your feelings for him balled up,LET HIM KNOW!!!
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