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sister trouble
okay so i have a sister that is a couple years older then me and she is really nice but really bossy. she always makes me do things for her and i do them because i dont want her to not like me. it is getting really out of hand and i am like her SLAVE now. i feel like she is taking advantage of me but i dont know what to do, help!
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Try to talk to your sister and make her understand how you feel. The only person who can boss you around is *you*, because this life is originally yours. If you're afraid that she will stop liking you, remind yourself that she's your sister, and there's really nowhere to go from here. Family is family, and truth to be told, most (but not all) of the big sister are like that. The one thing that is also important to realize is that you are NOT helping her when you're doing things for her she could've done herself. Every person must be strong and independent, and Damsels In Distress are not survivor types anymore. Survive and succeed those who use their fears and other stumbling blocks as stepping stones. So actually, what you've got to do is use your insecurity about what your sister (or anyone else for that matter) will think of you as a stepping stone, and let her know that you can choose your own behavior and make your own decisions, which, by the way, you wish for her as well. You can't always use someone's back when you're tired of walking.
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Hey! I don't think that your sis is being really that nice to you. My cousin's Bro used to tell her to give him her food. And she doesn't get to eat that much. Then she told my aunt,{her mom died years ago} and she told my mom and they like told him striaght off thaT HE shouldnt do that and sreamed at him. IT WAS SO GOOD!
Ok... back to you. I think that you shouldn't care what she thinks of you and if she is all like " Get ME THat OR THAT!" Then you say no and if she does anything to you then you go and tell your mom and dad.
hope that helps !
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Have self-respect and be assertive! If she is going to boss you around tell her to do it herself.
I know the fear of someone not liking you over doing someone's chores and other things, but if she is really going to hate you then that's her problem. And try telling her that it's not her job. But if it goes out-of-hand, like physical force, you need to tell your parents about this. You should never try to solve things from a physical fight or argument.
And since you said she is nice, then there shouldn't be much of a problem to make her realize that it's her responsibility to do her job(s). And tell her that since she is the big sister, she should be a better influence and take responsibility for her own jobs.
But if you two never find a solution, then you really should talk to your parents about this.
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Tell her if she wants stuff done-for her to get off her ass & do it herself. You've got better things to do than sit there & be her slave. :]
♥T!NA
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