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Boy Lying.
My best guy friend has this friend that's a girl that I highly dislike. They weren't friends from August til now. I think they're starting to be friends again, which really sucks for me. The reason he stopped being her friend in August was because she would keep bringing him places far away, like theme parks, etc. Then she'd leave without him knowing. I always went and got him, even when it was about 2 hours away. Why he wants to be her friend again I do not know. :/ How can I deal with this? For some reason it bothers me very much, to the point where I cry every night, hyperventilate and what not. I have told him, so what else can I do? Thank you.
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hey, well you cant change his mind. whatever he decides, he decides. you can sure try to persuade him to do the right thing tho. explain to him that if she really was his friend then she wouldnt leave him. also if they were meant to be friends they would have stayed friends from the start and not have stopped talking for a short period of time. i know that you said that you already told him and had a talk with him, but theres nothing else that you can do unless you want to talk to the girl that you hate. if you decide to do that then explain to her that if she wants to be real friends with him that she shouldnt leave him places because real friends dont do that. good luck =].
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The reason why you are reacting so strongly could be either
1) You are a highly possesive person who doesn't like to share your good friends with others
2) You could have fallen for him
It is very difficult to differentiate between 1) or 2) and I can't tell you if you're 1 or 2.
First of all, accept this reality: It is very difficult to make people do wat we want.
Actually I was thinking, why are you so upset with the girl? Cos you didnt say much bout her except bout the theme park thing and quite frankly speaking, it isn't such a big deal. I don't know, perhaps there are other major things for you to get upset with.
Since you've talked to him bout it already, you should just leave him be. As you've said before, he did stop being her friend for a period of time. That means he must've doubted their friendship. I guess he went back to being her friend probably cos he wanted to give her a second chance. People can get soft-hearted at times.
If she's really such a bad person, then eventually he'll come to realise tt. Everyone will. It's just a matter of time. If you've done all you could (such as bitching bout her and telling him how vehemently you reacted) to prevent him from being her friend and yet he still continues to hang out with her, then it really means that you should give him a break. Just let him realise what a horrible friend she is by himself. Sometimes people need to be slapped in their face before they know what pain is. Also, maybe you should give the girl a chance? Maybe she isn't such a bad person?
She might have been inconsiderate for doing that theme park thing to your best friend but maybe she has her reasons for doing so? Like she probably couldnt find him and got strayed from him while playing in the theme park?
Don't get yourself so stressed up over this situation. You are only making yourself miserable. Him making one more friend doesn't make him less of a best friend to you. Sometimes, we gotta let go and not be so possessive. There's really no harm done to you and his friendship when he hangs out with her right? Everyone has the right to do what they feel is correct. So let him be, don't get so agitated. Since he's your guy best friend, then I'm sure you two share the same beliefs in what constitutes a good friendship. So let him be. Once he realises that the girl's not a good friend, he'll leave her sooner or later.
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your right he should deff choose his friends better because your always the one picking up the peices and wasting money on gas but maybe you should also think about your friendship he maybe your best friend but it sounds to me like you might like him more than a friend considering you cry and hypovenulate over him and tell him that your not going to always be there to pick up the pecies and if you want to be friends than go head but remeber when you get stuck or straded dont call me and if you like him as more than a friend maybe it time for a more serious talk about your friendship i hope i helped goodluck
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