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this girl that i hate
Okay, long story short. This girl Jenny, I hate we have a horrible history of friendship. Well we were pretty clsoe at the end of 7th grade. Before that a girl named Kelly and I were really good friends since 6th grade. At the beginning of the 7th grade I was really bithcy and told her to lets break the friendship and Kelly was really hurt by that and I still regret it. Mainly it was because of our stupidity and my rashg actions. Also Jenny made it hard for me to be friends with Kelly knowing that she always talked bad about her saying she was a poser an annoying and etc. So now we're in 9th grade and Kelly and I are still friends but not good ones. Well Jenny has no one to sit with at lunch and picked KElly to be her "friend" But I know from experience and from knowing others who were her friends that Kelly is just gonna get all the stress and hurt at the end because Jenny's just like that. Every friend she had dislikes her now because of her cruel, selfish, and rude actions and such stuff. Kelly doesn't realize it yet but she will soon and I don't want Kelly to get hurt. I never told Kelly that Jenny talked bad about her like woah for a year and how Jenny urged me every second I saw her to get away from KElly. I know that it was my fault that I broke it off and I was stupid enough to let a person that I wasn't that close with back then to come between a good friendship. I want to tell Kelly that she shouldn't get too close with Jenny and what Jenny said and did about Kelly. But I don't know how without villfying Jenny and seeming like I'm jealous of their friendship and blah blah..
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At anytime when she brings her up, and jenny is not around explain to her what you had witnessed about Jenny, and make sure you have many others to defend along with this. Tell her how Jenny feels about her. It seems like she is using kelly cause she has nobody to hang out with. Use a slow and easy tone, and a solem face as if its really nothing to you. So the truth won't be messed up
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Just straight up tell Kelly " I think you should know that Jenny isnt the best person to hang around with, last year ( or whenever it was ) she seemed to talk bad about you all the time. If you dont belive me thats fine Im just trying to help you out." and just walk away, that way shell probably relize that you were telling the truth and not trying to be jealous. Hope I helped
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You are in a tough situation. The thing about this is that you can't be the one to mention anything to Kelly because it will seem that way. In your position, I would talk to some of Jenny's previous "friends" that Kelly knows were her friends. And maybe if you go hang out with Jenny you could try to set up a few of those to come along and maybe just after a while you and Jenny's other "friends" can share your experiences of being her friend. But do it just casually, because if you start right away and keep going on about it, then Kelly will more than likely not believe the sum of you. I don't believe there is anything that you personally can say to prevent her from getting hurt how you are asking about not villiyfing Jenny or seeming like your jealous but if she hears it from more than one person... it might give her an idea of what Jenny is really about.
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Jenny is the one whose jealous. Thats why she was bad mouthing kelly in the first place. Confront jenny in front of kelly. put jenny on the spot. Ask her why ae you trying to be kelly's friend when you used to talk about her so bad? I thought she was a poser? Dont worry bout them thinkin ur jeaous because you and kelly were friends first and your just doing what you think is the best thing to do.
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