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Should I really waste my time on him?
I'm dating this guy in college who seems to always be busy which I understand of course... we've been dating for over a month now and we usually go out once every week since well he's in college and i'm not. I feel like he's emotionally callous when it comes to online conversations or better yet conversations in person. He just doesn't seem to understand how I feel... for instance today was the last day that we were going to hang out before christmas break since he's going back to his home town... I texted him to ask him to come over and he gave me these excuses of him having a headache and feeling like shit and that he had to do this scholarship thing... I was very angry and sad and I just texted him saying, "it's okay i'll understand if you can't come over just as long as you get better." He said, "sorry" but I mean he really gets me angry a lot... it's like he doesn't understand me and seems to be more disattached to this thing that we have. We're not official but even so we have been dating for this long and he should at least know how to be a good guy... So anyway, here I am really sad and angry and he's online giving me all these political articles like him not coming over is not a big deal at all... it's really getting me worked up and wondering whether or not I should even waste my time on someone like him... I know he's not cheating on me just cause he's honest and is not like that... but I mean come on we planned today's date 2 weeks ago and talked about it yesterday... I just don't know what I should do...
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I'm going to go against everyone else here, and probably go against what you want to hear, but here goes...
I understand what he's going through. College is a lot more work than high school. A LOT. He has to focus on the most important thing in his life, which at this time is school, not a one month relationship. You have got to realize this.
Also, you've caught him at a bad time. You say you've been dating for just over a month? Guess what? It's exam time! Give the poor guy a break. He's probably stressed out like crazy.
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i think you should just drop him. i know you may have strong feelings for him but you dont deserve that. NO girl does, if he was truely trying to make your relationship work you guys would have been official. He also would have came and seen you, no matter how much his head hurt.. its called TYLENOL! lol
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Yes, you DO know what to do. If a guy is really into you, he'll want to see you, and he'll call, and he'll make plans with you. If he were as honest as you claim, he would've said, "I'm sorry, but this relationship isn't working out for me." Maybe YOU could take the initiative and say that.
In the future, anyone whom you would describe as 'emotionally callous' is someone you want to avoid.
Sympathetically,
Cavatica
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im sure you know the saying long distance relationships never work and it seems that hes really not into the whole thing maybe hes trying to drift away so itll be easier to break up you know i think that its about time to have a long talk and if things dont change you need to step up and find someone who meet your needs you know because the way hes treating you is unfair and i know that he can be busy but hello u make time for him right think about you can find better good luck i hope i helped
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