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Unfair Decision!
Ok! Me and My boyfriend Logan both are really jealous, and greedy people. So, one day he gets mad at me for going over to my friend Dougs house, so we get into an argument, and I bring up the time he went to his friends house, who he happened to have asked out last year, and he got mad at me saying it's not the same, so we both agreed that he would avoid Brittany if I avoided every guy I knew. But, he took it back today, and said he wanted to be her friend again. So I said I wanted to go to Dougs birthday, and he got mad at me, and said that I was being selfish.
So, basicaly...
Am I being selfish, or do I have the right to be mad? Because, if I have the right to be mad, I don't want to back off, I want to keep arguing until he comes to realize that maybe he screwed up, but if I am just being selfish, I want to appologize so everything will be better again.
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yes you should because he is trying to control you which he doesnt have the right to do. dont let him tell you who you can and cant be friends with. tell him that he is being controlling and overbearing and he needs to let you have your friends as you let him. dont let him be hypocrytical
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You both screwed up hun!
This stupid game is going to end your relationship. Either you two can agree to trust each other or you can't.
If you can't trust each other to even talk to the opposite sex then why the hell are you together? Just to torture one another?
For a split second stop worrying about whether you are right or not and start thinking about whether this argument is going to do you any good at all.
I promise you, it's not. Even if you are perfectly right to be mad and perfectly right to go to your friends party but refuse to allow your boyfriend to have a friendship with then girl, you are still going to end up perfectly right and perfectly single if you keep behaving the way you are.
You are being selfish, just not in the way you think. You are being selfish because you making being right, more important then being in the relationship.
Here is the simple, easy, mature way to deal with this:
"Hey boyfriend, Doug is my friend and I'm going to his party. Deal with it or dump me. Similarly, you can be friends with Brittany if you want to be, but if you cheat on me I will dump your ass so fast your head will spin. I'll tell everyone you are rubbish in bed too..."
That is the solution that will make everything better.
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No he's being selfish. If he thinks you should avoid all guys you know then that means he has to avoid all the girls he knows. It goes hand and hand. the same thing can't be right for you but wrong for him. If i were you i'd do what i want even though he's your boyfriend. Its your right on who you hang out with not his. Dont apologize!!!!
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you are not being selfish you have the same rights as him
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ok im in that type of relationship so i know how you feel, and ya it is childish, but then again if you cant get over it, then ya'll need to work out an agreement, like how yall first did and if he doesnt stick with it then you dont need to either! then hopefully he'll understand how you feel and it'll be easier for yall to work out an agreement that ya'll both can do...hopefully that made sense haha
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The truth?
Lets use the word childish. You should BOTH be able to see your friends, male or female without the other throwing a fit. If you had intentions to date these other people you would have done it by now.
You both need to sit down and discuss your relationship. You are going to have to learn to trust one another and get control of the jealousy.
If you don't your relationship is doomed.
You don't mention your ages, but one day you will be out in the world earning a living. You will be in contact and working closely with people of the opposite sex. You can't be getting jealous in this
case.
I don't think it is fair he can see his female friend and you can't see your male friend. It shouldn't even be an issue. Have a talk. You both
need a more mature approach to your relationship. :)
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