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"Plumber" shame.
Ugh...I noticed for a while that people seemed to be giggling when they were behind me, but I always thought maybe I was just being paranoid or something and just sort of ignored it. One day I was on the bench waiting for the bus when this group of girls started laughing and saying "oh my gosh" so I turned around and asked them "what's so funny?"
and one of them was like "your butt crack is totally hanging out!"
I thought she was joking but I felt back there and found out she was right. Later I told one of my friends about happened and he sort of turned red and looked away. And then he admitted that "yeah, that happens to you all the time. That's sort of what you're known for." I suddenly felt really bad and burst into tears which, as a guy, is really embarrassing and I know sounds really stupid. He apologized for never telling me, he said he was afraid it would make me feel bad.
Anyways, Im having a really hard time dealing with the fact that everyone I know has seen my butt crack and that Im known as the "plumber butt" guy. I feel like my dignity is gone. Ive bought new pants and fixed the "crack" problem but I cant get rid of this shame.
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Aww. Well, you just kinda gotta give it time and the embarressment will go away. Dont worry about it, people will forget soon as long as you keep that butt covered. Haha. Sorry I'm not giving that great of advice, but the only thing to do is wait to forget about it.
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It would have been nice if your friend had told you all this. But, he thought he was sparing your feelings and sometimes in doing so friends make the wrong decision.
There really isn't anything you can do about the past. It will take a while but they will forget it
soon. In the mean time, hard as it may be for you, If it comes up again, just laugh it off. You know they will miss seeing your beautiful crack! If you let it upset you they will continue. If you laugh it off they will get tired of it and pick on someone else (unfortunately).
As for being embarrassed, don't be. These kinds of things happen to everyone at some time in their life. You have it fixed now so don't worry about it anymore. :)
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Don't be shamed to go straight up to the people who laugh at you. it hurts to be made fun of and if you make them stop, it won't hurt as much. They should keep it to theirself. I know a girl whose butt crack hangs out all the time but i dont laugh at her thats the wrong thing to do. If they laugh and make fun of you, They are not your true friends.
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Everyone will forget about it in a few months, don't worry.
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