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love or money?
i babysit for a baby whos parents are probly the smartest ppl in the world, and if you've ever babysat for anyone like this before, its very hard to say no. i haven't gotten to hang out with my boyfriend for a few weeks now. you know just "us" time which makes me very sad. but i'm struggling to pay for everything these days, and i'm in need of the money...i guess the question here is the love or the money?
resently they've asked me to come babysit while they go christmas shopping. for 7 hours. noon to seven. now i was planning on having that night for my bf and i but now its shortened because i said yes...
i feel horrible and don't know what to do.
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well i think you should still babysit since you said yes because that would be rude to tell them you can't when u already said yes i mean i know you wanna hang out with your boyfirend but heres an idea how about you just bring your boyfriend over to help or to keep you company so you can babysit and also hang out with your bf and since you need the money you should probably take every chance you get to babysit and maybe if its cutting into a lot of your plans tell them and maybe ask for a raise since you choose to babysit over your better offers or your plans!
but dont get to caught up with babysitting that it takes up all your time and you have no you time!!!!!
hope i helped
sincerely Clo-Bo (Chloe) :)
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i m sorry to say that You have to baby sitt for them since you already said yes but next time if you made plans with your boy friend dont say yes just be like " Im reealllly sorry but i cant babysitt for you tonight" and maybe recommed one of your friends. dont let babysitting take over your life! They do not controll You its not your problem you are busy!
hope i helped <3lucy
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tell them you will abysit to about noon to 3 or 4 but you have to get home for a night with your boyfriend. i promise wthey will understand
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take him with you.
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There is something to be learned from this experience and it is so important. You cannot please yourself and others simultaneously. Saying yes to one choice, is saying no to many others. I don't think that these smart people are impossible to say no to, I think you have a hard time saying no to them. You need to take responsibility for your choices or nothing will change. You can blame others for manipulating you, but you will know the truth. This is not a choice between love and money, but about keeping your word and commitments, and making the most of your time in a way that works to attain your goals. You can still work in some time with your guy and keep your commitment and make some cash. Next time you are asked to do something, tell them you will check your calendar and get back to them. Carry a little planner and make some dates with your guy that you keep free of other things. Life takes two things: Discipline and Balance. Take charge of your life and practice both.
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you really shouldn't feel bad, i mean you're working. And money's hard to come by these days. You should tell your boyfriend that you have work and if he loves you he sould understand and accept it. If he breaks up so what? there are other guys out there anyway. If it's important to you to keep this then you should keep babysitting.
Think of it, if you said no then they would have to find someone else to do it and that means no money for you, and what if something happens to the baby? I'm not trying to guilt trip you but im trying to say is that work comes first in life, we can't have both. Hell i work 2 jobs and it's either money or friends.
I told my friends about it and they understand so that means they are my true friends and i will keep going on my jobs. anyway i hope this helps and take care.
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