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was she wrong in what she did?
last christmas me and one of my close friends decided to swap gifts. i bought her this really nice sally hansen nail polish set for $10 from CVS and i loved it so i got it for her. we traded gifts the next morning and i opened up a really cheap bracelet from claires with no tag, and an opened nail polish bottle with polish on the cap.
i'm not being selfish, but who would do that?
when i confronted her about the nail polish, she actually told me that she got it from her aunt, used it, and didn't like the color. how pathetic is that??
so after i confronted her and told her it was open, and that doing that is really rude, she turned all red and started saying "it's the thought that counts!" in my head i was saying, yeah but it doesnt mean squat if you don't put any thought into it! and then i told her how the nail polish i got her was expensive and she said it wasnt! how dare she
she asked to swap gifts again this winter, what should i do?
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well, since you didnt like her gift last year, then maybe you guys could go shopping together this year, and she will buy you something that you picked out, and youll buy her something that she picker out. you could agree that it cant cost over 20$, or maybe you have to spend an equal amount of money.
that way its fair and both of you are happy. the only thing is that theres no surprise, but you could also agree to get each other like a candy bag or somthing small and really cheap.
just an idea. hope it helped!!!
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you should decide a price range because last year you got ripped off. it may be about the thought, but if she gave you a nail polish color that she didnt like, it seems like the only thing she was thinking of was herself. you may want to establish that gifts must be between 10-15 dollars or something. that way you dont need to go all out, and she cant give you used items. if she does it again anyways, then politely give her the gift back and say you cant accept a gift that has no value to your friendship.
-erin
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i think that you can as long as you establish some ground rules. decide that either they have to be used or unused. whether they have to be made or bought. etc. that way there is NO confusion
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Personally I think it is the thought that counts. It is possible she had no money but wanted to get you something anyway. In this case I think you were a the rude one. You embarrassed your friend. Then couldn't resist telling her what you spent on her.
I don't think exchanging gifts is a good idea since you haven't gotten over last years yet. :)
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That being said then I don't think I would exchange gifts with her. I doubt she has changed and a lot of it may be her mother not allowing her to buy anything. You will just be frustrated again. :)
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