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Breakups
so i told my boyfriend I think we shoudl take abreak because he was being way to controlling and overpowering and he fraked out saying he was gonna drive his car into a tree and drove away..i found him and we talked and he keeps saying that if we broke up he would die..this relationship isn't good for me..how do i get out of it
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We just learned about this kind of stuff in school, and this is an abusive relationship.
Though he may not be physically abusing you, threatening to kill himself if you leave and being controlling of you is also considered an abusive relationship. I would advise going to a public place and breaking up with him there, and have someone waiting for you outside in the car or something. Don't make a big scene, but the public place is just so that if he tries anything, there will be people around. It's important that you do get out of the relationship very soon, and maybe talk to someone about this or something. Hope i helped a little bit-
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you need to tell him that he needs to get help and that he cant rely on you to make him happy .. my boyfriend does kind of the same things sometimes when he gets upset and i just tell him that he cant make me his whole life because you never know what will happen in the future
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Hmm well I know exacly what you're going through.
But all I can say is that if he's gonna act all immature or I wish I was dead and shit like that then he's not worth your time.
He's doing that to get your attention so you don't ever break up with him.
But just tell him you wanna take a break for now and if he really loves you I'm sure he will understand.
Good luck.
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You do exactly what you did, just be firmer. Don't ask for a break. You don't really want a break do you? What you want is the hell out of this. So tell him it's over and don't chase after him no mater what he says.
His stupid threat of self-harm is just one more way he is being controlling and trying to bully you. Even if he does something that amazingly stupid, it's not your fault, it is him being an idiot.
In the end, people are responsible for themselves. You are responsible for your own happiness and health, which is why you need to end this relationship completely and he is responsible for himself. So if does something stupid, that’s his problem. Don’t let him even try to make it yours.
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You don't let yourself be bullied by his threatening suicide. Contact a relative and tell them of his threats and then tell him goodbye with a clear conscious. You cannot stay in a relationship you don't want out of fear of what he will do. That is abusive. You are not in any way responsible for his life or what he chooses to do with it. :)
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