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suicidal,early fourtys, no job, no nothing
I am getting obssesed with the idea of commiting suicide. I am not a teenage girl by the way, I am a 40 year old bysiness man. I take pills so that I can sleep at night but i just wont help but anyways I dont want to bitch about my life. I just dont want to think about killing myself anymore.it is always there, the thought. Crazy thoughts, how to do it, will it hurt, make a big fuss and....that is all.
I think also that if I start doing heavy drugs things will get better.
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Good times are not something that comes like a gift. They are the small moments sometimes lodged inbetween the crevices of great hardship. If we are in a hurry or have our eyes closed to hope, we may step right over them. The best times of my life do not outnumber the many days of hardship, but the good times are more meaningful because I decide that they are. You are the judge of your own life and you decide what to bring to it or take away from it. Unfair and unjust things happen to all people, maybe it seems like it never stopped happening to you because you see a chain of events like rippling water from a thrown stone. I can't argue with that. It is pointless to assess the quantity or quality of what has been, or how you choose to judge how it affected you. The only moment any of us have is the one we exist in at that moment. How do we know any other moments are real or existed? The gift of memory serves to remind us of the impact of the most impressionable moments and the emotions we attach to those moments as we replay them for ourselves. If you were a man without long-term memory and did not harbor a grudge against the past, you may find yourself very hopeful, or we might find that you are still having a tendency to look for the worst in a present situation, because of the networking of your early brain as you were influenced in eary years only to trust the negative as consistent. Put aside your anger for a bit, and look at the facts. All your life you have created expectations and probably done some things to create the reality of the outcome of those expectations in a way to reinforce your beliefs. We all do it. Until we catch ourselves doing it and admit to doing it, we will not cease from this self-defeating pattern. Let's say a woman is the victim of a violent crime. She then may decide that based on this strong experience that men are evil. Any nice man she comes across she thinks is trying to trick her and deceive her. She only trusts men who are obviously less than nice as being honest and real. She ends up dating men she despises, but by doing so can keep believing what she thinks is going to keep her safe. Identifying men as evil helps her to protect herself from all the evil men, she says to herself, but she only allows the bad ones to be a part of her life, because good men just do not exist. She has chosen what reality to believe and attracts only that reality that she has chosen. We have all done it! Are you aware that you could be, too? What do you believe and why? Sometimes our beliefs are so strong that they dictate our choices beyond what is resonable and also how we evaluate our choices. When we open ourselves up to the possibility that our beliefs are not the ultimate reality, but just some that we have held onto for reasons that we thought served us at one time, and may no longer serve us. What do you want to make happen that will give you a chance to breathe in some hope and see that you have an important contribution to make in living your life. All of us are connected and we have the power to impact more lives than we know for the better or worse. Some of the happiest people in the world are not rich, beautiful, famous or intelligent. They are the ones who have discovered peace in the midst of storms and that giving themselves to helping someone else brings more joy than money can buy. Examine your truths, and then re-examine them. Which ones still work for you and which ones have not worked to bring you closer to your truest self. Are you trying to please others or have you discovered the secret happiness of loving and pleasing your best self, the person the universe created only you to be. I am interested in your thoughts.
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You are very brave for admitting this even to yourself. Every single person goes through tremendous darkness at one time or another in their life. In this darkness you feel alone and isolated and hopeless. You have no idea how far or close you are to anything getting better or a light around the corner. The perception is clouded and it is difficult to think anything will ever change. It seems permanent and stagnant. You feel powerless. See, I have been there. Lots of people have. You have heard the saying about it being darkest right before the dawn. Sometimes it is gradual and sometimes it is a matter of finding the lightswitch and click! The reason we turn to thoughts of ending our life, is the false belief that this is the only thing we can control or only end to frustration. It is very important that you talk to your physician about the depression. Our bodies are just chemical reactions, and negative thoughts actually change our chemistry and make it harder for our thoughts to turn hopeful again! Antidepressants could be a very good thing to jump start your life again. They will not make you loopy or fade you out. You will feel normal, good normal from the proper prescription. Couseling offers people a chance to work through the dark thoughts in a safe non-judgemental place, and helps to unfog your mind and unburden your emotions. This will give you the power to claim back control of your life and make the best decisions for a happy future. Don't give up on yourself. Life has not given up on you, you just need to engage yourself and let yourself be human. We don't need supermen and superwomen, we need real humans helping other real humans in this world. There is beauty in being able to give to others, but first you need to be humble enough to ask for help yourself. I will be thinking of you and sending positive thoughts out to you and prayers to the universe on your behalf. Make an appointment with a doctor and a counselor this week and let me know when you do it. I am not going to let you off the hook. Smile.
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Suicide is not the answer. I have been in the same boat. Please email me at cornblade@cs.com and I can help you. I have been through all the suicidal thoughts, I hated it entirely, it would never go away. I was even at the brink of suicide last year around this time. I even got to the point at writing suicide notes to people I loved, but what does suicide solve? Nothing, it ends your life, think deep about that, ends it permantely. And where would your soul go? Suicide is murder, rejecting yoru body that God gave you, suicidal people who do eventually commit suicide give themselves over and just let up and say there is nothing for me, but there is something for you, God is love. God can help you if you call upon him, if you commit suicide you would go to a place worse than this place on earth. You might think you live in hell now, but its not even close to what the real hell is. Dont feel like you will be like this forever, dont give up. There is light, some hope in this world, but after your dead there is nothing, no hope, no hope of getting better, no hope of living a good life to be able to benefit the reward in heaven. I had those thoughts of how I would do it, or would it hurt, but you have to block those thoughts out, know that suicide if from satan, he wants so badly for you to kill yourselve because he knows he will have your soul, he tells you things like suicide is the best way out, it will solve everything, he lies to you. It does scare you because you know its wrong, but satan comes back in and tries to talk you into it. Hes fighting for your soul, dont let him win. Its sad to see someone just give up their life, please dont!!! Im here for you, please email me, I would love to answer anything you have to ask, and even if you dont feel like there is a God, id still love to talk to you, I want to help you in any way I can and dont want to offend and make you uncomfortable. Please email!
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You are adult babe, so I will spare you any sugar coating or fooling around. You absolutely must realize these things:
Your thoughts about drugs and suicide have no basis in reality. They are easy fantasies. Life is a more difficult thing then dreaming about escaping it.
Your belief that drugs will make you feel better is like believing a band-aid will fix a gapping stomach wound.
You are actually very sick.
Sick people go to a doctor and tell the doctor what's wrong. Until you do that, you will not feel any better.
Drugs, when prescribed by a doctor, can help with depression but they don't cure it. Street drugs don't even help. They just feel good for a little while and then make you even sicker.
I'm sure you are not fool, most people who fall into depression aren't idiots. So you don't need me to tell you to seek help. I hope all you need is a few random strangers online all giving you the same message: Go to a Doctor. Go to a therapist. Call the national suicide hotline (really easy this one. right here: 1-800-273-8255). Go to a support group.
We can't take that next step for you. We can’t sweep in and save you. You must be your own trusted adult, your own mature friend, your own best buddy, and take care of yourself if you
ever hope to beat this.
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What is so bad about your life to make you want to end it all? So many people suffer from depression, there is help out there. Like another person said, the sleeping pills you are taking may be making you more depressed. Drugs are no solution to ANY problem. Trust me, they will only make it worse. You didn't exactly ask a question, but you seemed like you really needed a friend, so if you want to talk or if you want advice about something in particular, feel free to e-mail me XBrooklynHeights@aol.com. I hope things get better for you. If you haven't already, I suggest you talk to your doctor and he or she can recommend something for you (like zoloft or welbutrin) to help with the depression. There are also places you can go to do to outpatient depression treatment, or if you feel comfortable talking to someone about your problems, I recommend a clinical psychologist. I hope this helped, and please don't hesitate to message me. <3 Dana
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Okay. Believe it or not, most Americans have experienced depression in their lives at one point or another. I'm not saying that this is normal, though.
It is hard to help you because you did not mention your job situation [what education and job experience do you have?], your marital status, or your living arrangements [do you live alone, with your parents, with a friend?], but I will try my best to help you.
I suggest the following things. First of all, post your resume on online websites such as monster.com and craigslist.com. Then look through newspapers and call for information about jobs that interest you. You are bound to get a job by doing this.
There are many reasons as to why you are depressed [I am assuming that you suffer from depression]. One, your job situation, which I already covered. Two, your marital status. Three, your physical appearance.
If you are suicidal because you have not found someone to love yet, it's alright. Not everyone in this world gets married. Most people who get married these days get divorced anyways, according to statistics. So please do not let that bring you down. If you want children, then you can always adopt a child, but you should have a steady job and living situation beforehand.
If you are suicidal because you view yourself as ugly, make changes. Try out a new clothing style, get a haircut, go on a diet, exercise more, etc. You could even wear some make-up [not noticeable make-up, though, unless you are okay with appearing homosexual].
I really hope that you realise how serious suicide is. It affects everyone, including you and your future. According to a few religions, you would go to Hell for eternity for committing suicide. Your family and friends would be devastated and feel guilty. You may think that you don't have any friends, but I know that you do.
There are 5 things that I truly believe will help you become at least a little happier. Exercising regularly, eating healthily, sleeping sufficiently, setting aside time every day for something you enjoy doing, and having faith. If you are not religious, consider converting to a religion. These 5 things are sure to help you become more optimistic.
I hope that I helped. I will pray for you.
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I'm a teenage girl and you probably don't wanna read this but please do so. I've already tried to commit suicide more than once and not once did it work. I thought that I had no one and nothing to live for but I was wrong when the people that loved me stopped me.
Think about your past, your childhood. What were the happy highlights? What is your favortie past time memory...just think happy thoughts and be with the ones you care for. Think about who and what you'll be leaving behind. Don't say no one or nothing because there is always someone out there that cares about you.
I suggest you go see a doctor or some professionaly help before you decide to carry on with these thoughts
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hey ive been there and if you realy dont wanna commit suicide then the vitaims B12 and B6 work great. Thats what I did. The sleeping pills could also be the problemtheyare known to be the main cause of depression so if you try to get a different sleeping pill it may also work.
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