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Eating alone
I just graduated from college and now I'm in a university. So the problem is.. I don't have any friends who can eat with me during lunch. I kinda feel very lonely because I'm not used to eating alone while I was in college. Now, I get to lectures all by myself...spend my breaks by myself..I'm beginning to feel very lonely and depressed.
Most of my friends went to different unis and it's hard to say "hi! shall we eat together?" to a stranger I met during lectures.
I did ask my friends if they were willing to eat alone and they all said "never". But when I asked my family members, they said its alright to eat alone...
I mean like..what if I bump into some of my friends and they see me eating all alone like a beggar? I did try to eat alone before and at that time I kind of tried to quickly finish my food so that I wouldn't see anyone I know. And I don't like to hurry while I'm eating.
So right now..I just need reassurance..is it alright to eat alone in uni?
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It's fine to eat alone no matter where you are! It's a little weird getting used to doing stuff alone, I know, because I went from being the person who doesn't go anywhere alone in high school to having to be more independent in university.
Just make more friends in lecture! I always talk to the people sitting next to me, and I made a ton of friends that way.
If you're awkward about talking to that stranger you met in lecture, just walk up and be like "Hey, aren't you in my ___ class? Is it allright if I sit down?" and you'd be surprised at how well it works.
It's a huge transition into university, but good luck!
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It can be very hard and lonely starting Uni on your own. It is quite acceptable to eat alone, but can I suggest that you have a look around the dining hall and see if there are any other people eating alone. You may be quite surprised to find that there are many lonely people feeling like you do. It will take a bit of courage to go up to someone and ask if they would like to join you as they are eating alone too, but please try it.
It will take you a couple of weeks to find other people on your course that you can be friends with so please don't lose heart. My daughter went through exactly the same thing herself this time last year and it was rough for a few weeks.
This year she is sharing a house with three other girls that she got to know during the first year. She and her friends are much happier now, so things do get better.
I hope that everything improves quickly for you, and you will look back on this experience as a learning curve. Good luck.
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Well, if you don't like eating alone, and you feel lonely and depressed simply make new friends. Just talk to someone during a lecture or something, and maybe you guys will become good friends. It is fine to eat alone, but in your case since you're feeling lonely and depressed, it's not. Make new friends, and start eating with them.
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