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Am I "behind"?
I've been kind of bummed lately. I am 14, I have never kissed a girl, or even had a girlfriend.
I have plenty of friends (enough to make me happy), and I have no problem talking to girls as friends, but not other than that.
I have had plenty of girls that "liked" me, but most of the time it didn't work out (for random reasons), or they just didn't seem right for me.
Unlike a lot of guys, I am not just in it for sex (that would be great, but it's not my first priority). I just want someone to be with.
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well you must be the really sweet guy that all the girls die for but here is some advice "stop looking for a girl wait inteal she finds u and when the time is right u will kiss a girl but i mean your right it isent about SEX more about fun and alot more but just wait for her to find you"
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Aaawwww, you sound like a sweet guy.
Okay, let me tell you; I didn't have a serious boyfriend until I was fifteen, and I was his first serious girlfriend too! (well not too serious since it didn't last that long, but I'm straying formt he subject) Since you seem like such a down to earth, honest kind of guy, I'm thinking you'll find the right girl for you. Unfortunately, it will happenwhen you're not looking for it. I know, I was angry when i first heard this too, but it's true. When I was about your age, I wanted a boyfirend and I was so angry that I couldn't find one. Evreyone kept telling me "you'll find one when you least expect it," and wouldn't you know it, they were right. So here's my advice to you- You're only fourteen, so live it up. Don't concern yourself with dating too early or you'll get tired of it. Hang out with girls, be flirty, and overall, ahve fun. But he idea of dating girld out of your mind and try to be more like a friend so that your mind is off of dating. When you leats expect it, you will find the right girl.
And the sex thing? Yeah, continue not concerning yourself with that too.
Hope I was helpful,
Kayla Jay
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no, your not. its better to wait and find the one best for you than go through a bitter time dating so many girls and them not really being that great as many of them are.
woah think before you have sex, yo. 14 is a little young for that. -coughalittleTOOyoungcough-
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No, you're not behind. You just haven't found the right girl that deserves you yet.
Seriously, any teenage guy that doesn't just want sex.. well, that's pretty much amazing. And really rare these days.
In the meantime, flirt!!! and be friends with girls (like you already are) because when you need help with a girl you like, it's nice to have input from the opposite sex, especially her friends. :]
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i personally think that being single is better than being in a relationship. i've been in three relationships with 3 completely different people. yea, it was cool being with them, but sometimes it gets irritating to make someone happy when your not. also, being in a relationship can really take a lot out of people. really, just wait til "the girl" comes, then make your move. besides, it's more fun just flirting. i flirt with boys a lot, and it's a whole lot of fun. since yu already have girl friends, keep talking to them, get to know them better, the best relationships are the ones that had friendship first!
here's an article kind of thing that i read a couple of hours before i saw yur question:
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"It's Okay to be Single"
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no, not at all! some of my guy friends are in the same boat as you. and truthfully, girls are turned off by guys that have already dated like 20 girls and broken up with them. it's the whole sloppy seconds thing. so don't feel like you're behind your friends or anything. i'm 15/f, and i've never had a boyfriend. want to know why? i'm too focused on other things to seriously give thought to boys right now. besides that, none of the boys i know are right for me. wait a while, and don't just ask some girl out because you feel like you have to have a girlfriend. guys like that SUCK because you never know if they really like you, or if you're just the rebound. so don't be bummed about it at all. oh, and another tip: girls love gentlemen, so if you find a girl you really like, open the door for her :) good luck.
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hey , i'm a girl and i'm also not in for sex. i think it's a good thing when guys don't care so much about it. and i'm sure some other girls feel the same way. i mean if you are with someone you want to be happy right? so just wait cause if you hurry and just be with some girl you dont even like that much JUST DO BE WITH SOMEONE doesn't make you happy eather. so just wait. do guy stuff like soccer (whatever) hang out with friends and be normal i'm sure some day the right girl will come along. and i dont think girls like it that much if a guy desperatly looks for a girlfriend. just stay cool
maby this was a little confusing but i hope i helped
good luck
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It will happen. I know a girl that was 18 and didnt have her first kiss yet. Its just patience. Once girls see how youre not in it for sex, they will realize that youre one of those rare good guys. Just wait and see what happenes. In the meantime FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT!
best of luck
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