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Free to be Me?
How do I get over being as self concious as I am? It's like I refuse to sign up for all the homecoming events or dance at the pep rallies. I'm really not a shy person, just a little unsure of myself. I constantly tell myself to stop caring, but at times I feel like I look majorly stupid. I usually could act like I'm fearless, but I'm tired of acting. I really want to be secure with all of my actions!! Is there any piece of advice that I could replay in my head that would make me stop with the concern?
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listen to the little voice inside you, DO IT!! you can, it takes a little courage, but trust me, you'll feel better after you do it. don't back down! get in there! you're perfectly fine, no one will laugh at you! and if they do they're really jerks. try your best and the only time your a loser is if you don't try
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I understand how you feel. You may not know it, but many people out there in the world feel as you do. The thing that works for me is that I wont let people know that I am self concious. They way to do that is all in the way you present yourself. Body language is a huge thing. When people are self concious they tend to fold there arms and stand with locked knees. This tells other people that you are feeling self concious and you dont want to be bothered. You dont have to look at people in the eyes. That can throw you off even more. Insted, look at there forhead. This makes them think that you are looking at their eyes, but your not. Your actaully looking at their forhead. Also, when you walk. Keep your head up and walk with your chest first, ( Like a cheerleader)! This makes you look completely confident. And If you make others think that your confident then you will feel confident in yourself. Also, if you get nurvous tense and release. Tense your muscles and realse, making you feel more relaxed. Football coaches have their football players do this so they can feel more relaxed during the game. I hope that this works for you. It workes for me!
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lola is right and no matter what you will always be you who cares what people think i know its hard not to i struggle with it alot aswell.One thing that helps me is if i get embarased like if i fall and i rip a whole in my but or something very embarassing laugh and say o look at my cute kitty underwear or uh huh ya i am such a dork.Its a way to embrace who you are and just be happy its not easy but when you finnally manage to you will be so happy.I know i am probably not much help but i hope i was!!
~nikki~
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Sometimes I feel just like you do. But I always tell myself that it`s okay to be myself. There are many people who would like you for who you are and you have to always keep that in mind. Just gain confidence for yourself. Don`t put yourself down, because this is who are this is who you`ve been and this is who you will be. It`s a matter of learning to love yourself befor others can love you :)
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