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sleeping with my mom
I don't know if this goes here but here goes...Iam 17 and I still sleep with my mom,I don't sleep with her as much as I use to becouse i relize that iam a little old to be sleeping with her,but when I start thinking about my dad who died when i was about 12 I get so upset that I can't sleep so I end up crawling in bed with my mom and my stepdad gets up and sleeps on the couch so I can have more room,but i was wondering why do I do this when iam 17 I think i may have some kind of mental disorder.Is there a disorder that cause this?what are some ways that I can start to sleep in my room or at least on the couch in the living room?please help me!
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i really dont think theres anything worng with you. i think that when you think of your daddy, you jsut want comfort from your momma,after all- she went through it all with you. shes your support, and she always will be. i think your mom is a very strong woman for not even getting frustrated with you when you sleep in her bed, time after time. i give her major props.
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It doesn't sound like you have dealt with what happened with your father.
Maybe you are afraid that something may happen to her? She is your security and it sounds like you need it, but there will be a time when you need to go out in the big wide world on your own.
You might like to think of what your dad meant to you? Did he protect you, was he kind etc and transfer those aspects to your parent/step parent, friends etc.
I am not saying your dad is replaceable but a good thing is to think of how he might've liked you to be?
This may sound odd but the spirit of people is what makes them, them. And you maybe surprised how much of that spirit is around you - try using it for security.
Make a list with your mum about your greatest fears of what will happen if you spent an entire night by yourself...and then rationalise each one. Make it real. What would really happen?
Hope that helps
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You're carrying a lot of emotion around with you. It seems like sleeping with your mom is the only way that you can express it. If you can find other ways to let your emotions out you may begin to rely less on sleeping with mom. The best suggestion I have for this type of thing is to express yourself through writing. Write short poems or stories about your dad. You don't have to share them with anyone because just getting it out of your mind and onto the paper helps a lot. Another idea is to write down all the things that make you sad or afraid or anything like that, and burn them. You need to find closure with this. Yeah, it was a really tragic event, I'm really sorry that it happened to you, but you need to let it go. Letting go doesn't mean forgetting it or making yourself feel good about it, it means not letting it affect your everyday life anymore. If you find that nothing you can do works, find someone that can help you, like a counselor or a psychologist. Good luck.
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Well, i was nine and couldn't get out of my parents bed. So i eased away from it. I slept on the floor in a sleeping bag. Then, i slept in my bed but my mom stayed with me until i fell asleep. Then, eventually I eased out of it.
When my dads away, I still sleep with my mom in her bed cause its so COMFY!!I dont see anything wrong with doing it every once in a while, even though some people do. But if you can't get away from it know, don't worry. When I was little, I always slept with my parents. People told them I would never be able to sleep by myself. But here I am, 13, sleeping in my bed. You'll get out of this eventually so dont sweat it.
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