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my dad told me i have to get a job before i can get my license and a car. but the problem is i dont want a job and here lately he has been takin me to look at cars. i always try to tell him i dont want a job and hes like well i guess you wont be driving. but i dont understand WHY he wants me to get one, hes always tellin me about how if i want to go to my dream college (texas), well ANY college, then i have to get a scholarship. how in the world does he expect me to get one if im always going to be working? i play softball so of course i would have to probably quit just so i would have time to do my school work. i mean i have explained this stuff to him and he doesnt get it! i get out of school at 212 and practice starts at 230, and i dont get home til about 5, and i barely have time to finish my homework now!! and the last thing i wanna do is give up softball, but i want to drive WITHOUT a job!! can someone give me ideas on how to convince him??
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Hey. Well first of all cars are really expensive so it would probably be hard to just get you a car. It would be a lot easier on your dad if you got a job. Also, you said you don't even like softball that much but you probably wouldn't have to quit anyway. Is softball practice on weekands to? If not work weekands. Try doing your homework at different times instead of times you're used to. If you want a car you have to learn to be responsible and getting a job and helping your father pay for the car wouldn't hurt. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear but, it's true my friend :). Get the job and it will help you :). If you REALLY can't fit it in talk to your dad about it and tell him how hard it will be. Please give me feedback my friend :-).
Chrissie
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They aren't the ones who need convincing dear. You are the one who doesn't seem to get it.
Driving costs a lot of money (actually it costs between $2 and $4 per mile you drive, drive five miles to your friend's and back, suddenly you are out $30, not exactly chump change) Of course your father expects you to contribute towards that cost.
But balancing work, school and sports is not impossible. Difficult, sure, but never impossible, I am living proof! Not only did I work through high school. I played soccer, owned a horse, graduated with an A+ average and two scholarships.
I'm not particularly smart, I did that because I wanted to do it and I worked at balancing all those things. I got home from work or practice and did homework instead of watching the TV. Honestly, what are you doing between 5 pm and 9 or 10 when you got to bed? Cause if I wanted to drive a car, play a sport and earn a scholarship I wouldn't be letting that time go to waste.
And it doesn't stop at high school. I'm in university now and I have already worked 4 hours today, gone to class for 3 hours and am headed out to work 3 more hours tonight. I don't have a day off until the 18th, but in that time I will find time to grocery shop, do my laundry, clean my apartment and see my boyfriend and friends.
I will do it, because that is what I want, and because I willing to work for what I want. You might not want to work as hard as I have. Honestly I hope you never have to! But you do have to work, make compromises and sacrifices in order to get what you want. Your dad's expectation of your getting a job in order to have a car is very reasonable and it's just up to you to decide if that works for you or not. If it doesn’t = no car. Just like if I don't work = no groceries.
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Welcome to real life. It's all about trying to balance your responsibilities with work and extra activities. Plenty of people do this in high school, and yes, you will have to do it in college. And in your adult life. Your dad is trying to teach you how to balance appropriately with everything you have to do and want to do. You'll be able to do it if you try, trust me.
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