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is there somthing wrong with me?
about a year ago my close uncle died and everyone at the funeral was crying....everyone exept me that is,the same thing goes for when my grandad died. it hasnt really bothered me until now. is there somthing wrong with me? i knw death is supposed to be sad but whenever the subject comes up i dont really feel any emotion exept for just a very and i mean very minute drop of sadness.
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Everyone reacts to death differently. Some people cry a lot, some people get angry, and some people just keep it inside because they don't know how to express their emotions. There is nothing wrong with you at all. You likely are mourning inside in your own way. Don't be so hard on yourself, there is nothing wrong with you.
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I was the same way when my grandmother, my aunt,cousins, until my great uncle i dont know iwhy i was kind of close but he lived kinda far away so ya know but anywayz he was always so nice even though he knew that his wife didnt like and of the people who came around that was from his side of the famliy he was so loving and so nice and just everything you would want in a person and i was so sad when he died and i was like i havent even been around him here lately so everyone was crying and i was getting kinda teary and all the sudden i see my kid cousin start crying it crushed me cause it was her grandad and that song god only gries for the living says that part in it about when he thinks of his grandad it makes him sad and he thinks about it each and everyday and i cant help but to think that is wat she does. but i was just like a water fountian after that then they started playing the songs and i just couldnt stop.
by the way i think it also comes with age, you know wat i'm sayin?
hope i helped
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I felt the same way when my great grandfather died. Everybody was so upset and crying and everything. I just sat through the funeral taking it all in. I don't remember crying at all. I had been really close to him too. He lived right down the road from me and would walk to my family's house all the time in the summer for breakfast and stuff. I think I took it so well because I had already accepted his death in my mind. He was old and I'd already thought about him dying.
When my uncle died, however, I bawled my eyes out and still do whenever I think about it. I wasn't significantly closer to him than I was to my great grandfather, but it was a very unexpected death. I'd never even thought about him not being around anymore.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're not the only one and that no, I don't think that there's anything wrong with you. It's just the way that you handle it. You're calm, cool, collected, and generally unaffected. I think that this is a positive thing. You understand death and have accepted the fact that people die. It allows you to get over things easily, but still cope with them.
In Mexico there's something called "The Day of the Dead". They celebrate death. People in Mexico aren't as affected by death as people in other countries because death is viewed so positively. In the United States (where I'm from and I imagine you are too) death is viewed as very negative and sad. In Mexico it's a party. You should look up The Day of the Dead when you have some free time, it's very interesting to read about. What I'm getting at here is that Mexicans accept and understand death before it creeps up on them. They celebrate it every year. There's not something wrong with all of them is there? It's just a different culture and way of thinking.
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Adding on to what isis said, it probably just hasn't hit you yet. When my aunt died, I didn't cry either because I had family all around me for a while after she passed away. After everyone got back to their regular lives, I realized *wow...I'm n.e.v.e.r. going to see her again* and that was the point for me where I just broke down.
It's not a bad thing and there's nothing wrong with you. Sometimes we just don't think about these things right away.
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People react in different ways to loss. You may not feel sad at the moment but there could come a time when something small happens and it would be the trigger to you grieving.
You may be one of the few people who are able to handle situations like this without getting too emotional. We are all different. Do you feel emotions about other things? If you do not, you could have a slightly detached personality which enables you to be very practical when others are falling apart. (Good to have around in a crisis).
Try not to worry about this, as I said we are all different and our reactions are going to vary.
Hope that helps and good luck.
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nothings wrong.. probably. mayeb it just now hit you.. you were probably in to much of a shock to cry.. it happens babe..
hope i helped<3
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