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help me to break up!!!
ok well the thing is ive been going out with this girl for 6 months. im 15 so is she! i want to finish with her as she is too clingy and does not give me any room to breathe. the problem is she loves me more than anything and she might do something really stupid. ive also taken her virginity and is o broke up she would brand me as a user. how do i go about breaking up with her but not hurt her?
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Unfortunately, if that really is the way that she feels, you can't break up with her without hurting her.
However, you need to bear in mind that if you see no future in the relationship, then the relationship HAS no future and you cannot continue it under those circumstances. I understand your concerns that she might do something to hurt herself and might think poorly of you but you cannot hold yourself responsible for her actions. If she was to do something stupid following the break up, it would in no way be solely because of that. If she was happy with her life to begin with, she wouldn't be depending on you for her happiness. That sort of co-dependency is only self-destructive in the long run.
Tell her that you care a lot about her and you've loved the last 6 months together but you don't feel the same way about her as you used to. Explain that the spark that was there has gone and it would have been unfair and unkind for you to carry on pretending that it was there, when she could be out there meeting some guy who she can have that real spark with.
Just remember to be sensitive to her feelings. That is the most you can do to try to prevent hurting her as much as possible.
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well if i were you just tell her that you need more space and or if you cant do that if she wants to hangout i know lieing is bad but say your parents wont let you or whoever takes care of you or say you are busy but the parents thing might be better cause if you say your busy she might think your cheating on her so yea well if she doesnt give you your space then she obvioously is either obsessed or doesnt love you the right way if that makes any sense ok well i hoped i helped if not i'm sorry oh and i'm looking for some more guy friends and yea so if you ever wanna talk we can talk on aim everyonesproblem@aim.com or yahoo messanger For_ever_ur_problem@yahoo.com ok so yea thanx and hope i helped
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all you have to do is tell her that you need your space for a while and if she cant accept that then you break up with her.make sure you be kind about breaking up if you have to
hope i helped
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not sure if your gunna be able to break up with her with out hurting her, but i guess your best approach would be telling her you need your space.
and if she says stuff about you then fine. shes bitter and immature.
dont go out with her just bcuz you dont want to hurt her.. trust me. ive dealt with this same thing before. :)
hope this helps.
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