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feelings still there but I'm still confused
Okay I still have feelings for my ex boyfriend but i don't want to be wit him (if that makes any sense) I mean its like i can't even bring myself to get closer to other boys or anybody for that matter because i guess i'm scared that the same thing will happend...I mean sometimes i realize that he did me wrong but lately all i remember is the good time we had together...I guess i jus need help on how to handle the situation or do i still need time to move on or watever i mean its been i think 3 or 4 maybe 5 months? I really need help so if you can't be real wit me then don't leave anything thanks!
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I know where you are coming from on this because I've been there in the past. It's taken me almost two years to lose the feelings I once had for this person. There is no magical way to just get over a person. The only thing that actually works is waiting and going on with your life. I do recommend just staying away from him for awhile or getting a hobby that needs your full attention. I do karate and I've learned some wonderful life lessons in it including how to respect myself. For the longest time I thought the reason he dumped me was because I wasn't good enough for him. I used to go out of my way everyday just because I thought if I was there and if I did everything for him he'd come around. And to tell you the truth, he did come around again but he didn't respect me. And in the end I didn't respect me. So, to be honest with you I think you should move on. If he left you feeling awful then he's not the type of person you should be dating. There is someone out there that won't leave you. And you'll have even more great times with him.
I was scared too that the same thing would happen. So I shyed away from dating and I began putting off this "i hate men" attitude. Apparantly, boys react to that and stop paying attention to girls they don't think they can have. Don't ruin what you could have in the future because one stupid boy left you. He really isn't worth it if he isn't with you now.
I sincerely hope things work out for you and one day you feel better about all of this :)
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Most people will have gone through this situation. You've been single for a while and it's started to get to you, so you let your mind wander back to the happy times you've had with your ex. But you must remember that you broke up for a reason. Every time you find yourself thinking happy thoughts about him, get a pen and paper and make a list of the negatives in your relationship.
All relationships take time to get over, sometimes it can be weeks but other times it can be years. In the mean time, try not to dwell on it, get out and meet people, have a laugh with friends and have fun.
I'm not saying you should launch into a rebound relationship, but don't sit around moping. If you concentrate on your life without your ex and enjoy yourself then eventually you won't have any feelings towards your ex and you can start to date other people. Don't be scared of getting close to other people, put your relationship with your ex down to experience and don't repeat the things that went wrong with him.
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