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grandmother hates me
I am a 20 year old female college student. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. His parents adore me, his brother likes me and im practically best friends with his sister. Usually, it's the mother or father that don't like the girlfriend, but in my case, it's his grandma! She'll say rude and mean things like "your nose is big too" or "well, as long as he likes your body, thats all that matters" (after telling my boyfriend's sister how skinny she is.) I respect her and have never had a problem with her until now. We are in a serious and committed relationship, but im afraid his grandma will say something to him or ruin our future. What should I do?
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Welcome to the wonderful world of in-laws!! First off if his parents and siblings like you there is no worry at all of his grandmothers dislike of you to affect your relationship. Running and telling your boyfriend will only force him to choose in the long run between the 2 of you and trust me you can't win. Deal with it by being polite yet firm with his grandmother. When she tells you that your nose is to big ask her if it makes her feel better to insult you. When she makes a comment about your body thank her for noticing your figure as you work hard to be fit. Also I would tell her that you are more then a sum of your parts and what attracts her grandson most is your mind and intelligent conversation.
Eventually she should get the message, if not then ignore her as best as you can she is obviously bitter and needs to be shown how a true lady behaves in the face of adversity!!
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Try telling your boyfriend what she says's to you, he might say your being paranoid but then at least you have tried that approach. If it works then I’m sure he will have words with her and she will stop. If he doesn’t however I think the best option for you would to confront his grandma yourself, ask her what her problem is with you, if you can fix it then try if she is just being an old hag then I think the best just to ignore her. If your boyfriend loves you and it was meant to be then he won't listen to her, and if he does then you can obviously do better. I hope things turn out ok for you babes. love jem xxxxxxxxxx
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I think you should tell your boyfreind that your grandma says a lot of mean things and tell him all about her so hell know afterwards how shes like if she evers says something "wrong"I think your grandmas mean because belive it or not she can be jealous seing you pretty and she remembers that back in her days she was pretty and now that shes getting older,shes jealous.Just dont pay attention to what she says.
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