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i think theres something going on between my boyfriend and m
i think my boyfriend loves my best friend and i think she also loves him. i have tried asking my boyfriend questions like if me and him werent going out then who would he go out with and he mentioned her straight away. they are always talking and gettin on even sumtyms mor than me and him do. i feel quite hurt inside but i want to sumhow get proof if he really does love her and if she loves him too before i start thinking of breaking up with him because i luv him so much. please reply back soon x x thanks x
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if yu love him yu should let him go..even though it wil hurt if he likes some other girl...that means he is'nt the guy for yuu the guy waiting for yuu is a guy that can only think abt yuu andkan;t evn thinkof sum1 better then yuu...yuu deserve better everywun does so..yuu should dump tht guy so he kan go wit who he loves and yu find the right guy for yuu!!
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What an awful situation. I'm so sorry.
The main thing you have to bear in mind right now is that you can't make any decisions until you know for sure where you all stand with each other and however painful it might be, you have got to ask your boyfriend, straight out, "Do you have feelings for.....?" I know you have your suspicions but you will never know until you've asked him. When you know where he stands, you need to speak to your friend.
I would personally not suggest the all out confrontation already suggested. She hasn't necessarily actually DONE anything with him and while it's not a favourable situation, you can never blame someone for having feelings for the person you are in love with. After all, if you can see all the good in them, you can't blame other people for seeing it too. As long as no action has been taken on the feelings while you have been with him, she hasn't done anything wrong. However, she will probably be feeling very very guilty over the way she feels and really quite miserable about the whole situation. For that reason, no matter how hard it is, you need to take a softer tone with her.
Try to meet up with your friend somewhere neutral, so she can't shut you out too much. Explain to her that you've seen the way she looks at your boyfriend and heard the way she talks about him and you need to know once and for all if she has feelings for him because you think she might.
How your boyfriend and your friend react to direct questioning can't be said until it has been done. If they don't have feelings for each other but admit to being good friends, there's nothing further you can do for now. If they do admit to having feelings for each other, and this is the part that will hurt, you need to consider the possibility of ending it with your boyfriend until he has decided who he wants. I'm sorry to have to say that, but the fact is, I agree with what Wally said. If he decides he really does love you, he will come back. Otherwise, if you really do love him as you say you do, you need to let him be with whoever his heart has chosen to make him happy, even if that is your friend.
Unfortunately, that is the thing about true love. If you really care about someone, you want to see them happy. Even if that means they aren't with you.
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HAHA(best freind)I dont really think shes a best freind.If she were she wouldnt have been falling for your guy,even if HE was the one that loved her.If i were in your freinds place,i would curse the guy out and go tell you straight away.You need to confront her about this and not confront her by saying"(giigles) HI!!!um,can you please,like,not love my boyfreind,it gets me maaaad" i mean confront her by saying,"HOE!!Keep the hell away from my boyfreind,some freind YOU are.Its either HIM or ME."If she says you and stops talking to your guy then good for her but you still cant trust her.If she says him then,screw her. dont get mad about what happened.Its good that this happened so you can know who to trust and not to trust people too easily next time....then mabey if she breaks up with ur guy and gets a different one....YOU CAN GO FOR HIM,give her a taste of her own medicine!!muahah
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you'll come to learn that you really can't trust others that well. boys will be boys. BUT girls will be girls. trust me, friends will backstab you over guys anytime. so be careful about it. first go to her and see what she says about the whole situation, and tell her exactly how you feel. tell her that you are not comfortable with the way they act towards eachother. and tell her that you want the honest truth [even if it hurts].. it will hurt more if you find out later by accident
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i see were your getting at.
and i think you and your friend first.
and see how she really feels.
but you might as well leave it before you
get hurt. cause nothing can stop true love not even death.
have you hurd that saying
if you truly love something let it go.
if it comes back it was always yours.
if not it was never worth it.
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