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I'm in a scary relationship.
Ok. my bf and i have been together for over a year. and well, now that we've gotten so close he's started to let his manners and thoughtfulness slide. example: the other day i was asking him to take me out for dinner to celebrate how long we've been together, and he just blew me off and told me i wasnt that important and we could just eat sandwiches at home. and i have an inclination that he might be cheating. i was looking at his text messages the other day, and some girl ( im not going to say her name) has been texting him talking about her sexual desires with him. and when i confronted him about it he slapped me and told me i was a nosy bitch. ugh i know i should dump him and move on, but i really and truly care for him. he's the first boyfriend i've ever had that i've actually loved.
what should i do?
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dump him dump him dump him!Dont ever ever let any guy hit you or treat you badly. If you stay with him it will just be like you told him hey you hit me once you can do it again.if this guy truely loved you it would have never even crossed his mind to hit you. If you continue with this relationship it will only bring you harm. You are young and have our whole life ahead of you don't waste your time with him. I am sure that you are a beatiful girl that any guy would love to date. He is certainly not going to be your only boyfriend you are going to have. There are man fish in the sea. Please please listen to what I am telling you.
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if he got that upset about you going through his phone, then chances are there's something going on.
I understand it's hard to just walk away from a year long relationship like that, where you really care about him, but it's time to do what's right for you. I can assure you, from what you've said, that he is not the right guy for you..you deserve so much better than that. and you never know, you could break it off and him realize after a little while how stupid he was and he could become a better person because of it.
but right now, you need to get away from him..right now it may just be a slap, but if you let it slide, the abuse will only get worse.
Be strong,stand your ground, and good luck!
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If you know that you should dump him, then why would you let your feelings stop you from doing that? Who gives a damn if you love him, or what number boyfriend he is, he slapped you across the face. I'm pretty sure your safety should come first. Dump him before it goes any further than a slap.
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This may not sound like a good idea to you, but this is what I would do. Next time he does something unacceptable like hitting you, leave and ignore him for awhile. Don't give in and apologize no matter what you do. Give him some time to realize he's not treating you right and he needs to change if he wants you. And you need to realize he's been with you for over a year. He might tell you he doesn't care, and other hateful things in response to you ignoring him, but he won't mean them. You just have to ignore them.
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You deserve better then him hitting a girl is wrong and should never be done he doesn't treat you with respect you need someone who will him slapping you is a sign of abuse the best thing you can do is break up with him you'll be helping yourself if you stay in the relationship it will turn into a abusive one tell a adult about how he slapped you and what he said end it quickly before
he gets more violent you don't want to put yourself in danger
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he may or may not be cheating on you. if he got defensive when you looked through his fone, chances are he is hiding something. its hard to tell sometimes if guys are cheating or not. its better to be safe then sorry so
what i would do:
tell him you didnt mean to be nosy, you just want to figure out why you wer being blown off and called unimportant. then i would say if you truely love and care about me we can be honest with eachother. if you cant be considerate then we shouldn't be a couple. next i would gently and with care dump him. tell him all your feelings and why you dont think it is working out. also say we can still be friends. agknowlege the fact that its nothing personal you just dont want to have your heartbroken in a way that could have been provented.
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