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She's driving me insane...
This might be kind of long...
Okay so I'm a fifteen year old girl and I work at a family owned art supply store in my hometown. The store also makes school supply kits during the summer for the area schools to use in the fall. So this summer I'm helping make these kits. It's easy, fast paced and it basically just requires a good memory and quick math skills. I really like it except for one thing...this girl I work with is such a bitch. If I mess like one little thing up she like announces it to the whole world to embarass me and acts like it's the end of the world and it's going to take forever to fix. Even if I apologize and fix it myself!! WHICH I ALWAYS DO!!! Then she'll like get these other two people that work with us involved in it by telling them that I'm really stupid and like make fun of me with them like practically right in front of me! And she's always poking fun at me for being young (because I'm 15 and everyone else who works there is 17+...and I'm going to college next fall so she calls me a weirdo) and sometimes when I say things like joking around with someone else she'll butt into the conversation and say something like "that's an immature answer" or "what a dumb thing to say" or "how juvenille". Then this new girl accidentally got out too much of something and she like flipped out but she's new so she should totally give her a break about it!!! I can't like talk with her privately about it because she'd just shut me down like she always does. What can I do to like stick up for myself and make her realize she's being a bitch to me and the new girl? HELP!!!!!!!
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Eww God, I don't even know her, and I still hate her. Tell her plain out that she's being a bitch and she needs to shut her mouth. I know starting shit is very immature, but finishing it isn't. Next time she starts stuff with you, tell her to stuff it! Haha, she's just jealous. <- I know that's a really cliche thing to say, but it's the truth. Why else would she constantly be picking on you?
You're going to college next fall and she says you're weird? Damn, she's probably just jealous because she's not. You'll be going off to school in the fall while she's still getting paid minimum wage at your job. Ha, it's kind of funny.
Next time your talking to someone and she interupts you by saying "That's immature" or "How juvenille" Just be like, "Excuse me, I didn't ask for your input and neither did she. If and when I ask for your opinion, you're more than welcome to share. Until then, you can mind your own damn business."
Next time you or the new girl accidently make a mistake and she yells at you, be like "Are you the boss? If not then who do you think you are telling me what i'm doing wrong? One day when you become boss in about 30 years, and i'm a lawyer or a doctor making thousands of dollars, you can boss people around. Until then, do your work like the so called 'grown up' you are. Ok? Besides what do you care what a little immature child is doing wrong? You worry about your job and mistakes, and i'll worry about mine, ok?"
Simply ignore her. And if things get to out of control, go to the boss. That's probably the best thing to do.
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From what you've described she's being incredibly immature and extremely unprofessional. If she's older than you, and your going to college (probably before her) then she probably feels inferrior than you, and not as smart. So, putting you down is her way of making herself feel better than you.
Age has nothing to do with maturity in this situation.
If you can't talk to her privately, then you need to go to her supervisor. There should be a way to go to the supervisor without her knowing that it was you who told. At a work place, this should not be going on. It's bad enought that that kind of shit goes on in high school, a work place is not the place to have someone make you feel stupid.
Or, if you don't want to try that, then do the same thing to her. Make her feel like a moron when she doesn't something wrong, go up to her and catch her on all the stupid little things she says, ask her if she's just upset because she didn't get into the college she wanted, or if she just can't handle someone younger being smarter than her.
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Okay, if you aren't shy and if you are confident you can try this:
When you go to work or whenever you see her, just say, "Look, I know you think that you are so much better than me and all that crap, because you are a whole two years older than me, but can you please stop with the comments? Also, I'm sorry for making a mistake. I'm not a stuck up freak like you, okay?"
If you are shy or something you can try this:
You can write her a note saying:
I'm sorry if I am bothering you and that I mess up on some things. Please just stop annoying me about everything, though. I'm doing the best I can.
But, then again, the note thing might just make her laugh at you if you say what I told you to. I don't know. it depends on the what kind of girl she is. I guess you can just write her a note but ask your friends or parents what you should say in it.
You and the new girl can get together and come up with what to say to her. Or you two can help each other write a note to her. But, don't be afraid of her shutting you down. OR, you two can talk to the manager about the bitch if you are really desperate.
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Ok first of all she is probably jealous that she has to go back to high school in the fall where you are getting a jump start on being an adult. Also she is jealous because to skip grades you are obviously very intelligent.
So here is what I would do, number one you can make a point next time she calls you immature or stupid point out just as loudly that if you are soooo stupid and immature why is it that you have finished high school its because you have more brains in your little finger then she has in her whole empty head. Keep in mind though that this is the un-professional way to handle it.
The professional way would be to discreetly go to your boss and point out what she is doing (keep a list for a couple of days prior) and tell your boss that she is making the workplace very un-comfortable for you and the new co-worker, then ask your boss to either speak with this dumbass alone or to set up a meeting where all 3/4 of you sit down and hash this out.
By the way this bullying in the workplace is illegal and is grounds for the other girl to be fired.
Hope this helps. Good Luck
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