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Lashing out
My brother and sister are constantly mean to me and are always calling me names. My mom is always picking at me, and screaming at me for the littlest things i do wrong or don't do like she wanted me to. I have no way to vent out my anger other than taking it out on my friends. I recognize that i do that, and i apologize to my friends, but im afraid one day my friends will leave me. They don't understand what i have been through. My parents don't abuse me, but they are constantly yelling. I have thought about suicide, but i know that if i did it, my family would be devastated. i haven't attempted it yet. I can't tell my mom and dad what my brother and sister do to me, because they always make up an excuse or say "I didn't do that, why would i do that" and mty mom always believes them. I don't know who i can talk to.
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Sounds familiar. I've always been sort of the outcast in my family. Anyway, instead of taking it out on your friends, when you're feeling bad, remember that you have friends out there that like you and like to be around you. That always got me through the day. Simply submit to your parents and ignore your brother and sister, for a couple more years, and eventually your brother and sister will mature and your parents will yell at them.
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Hey, First of all jon's venting suggestions are great and so is tosh13's idea of a tape recorder. As for not being abused you are being emotionally and verbally abused and this type of abuse while is sometimes harder to see has long term effects on your self esteem and on your ability to have relationships with people. By taping your family you will be able to show them that you are in fact being treated unfairly, if the situation doesn't change I really would recommend that you talk to another adult that you trust, let someone now how you are feeling.
If you ever need to vent and just let out all that you are feeling, please feel free to send me a message here I will gladly listen anytime.
Sara
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well, what i would do is, if your parents are yelling at you, for no reason, [like it is in way your fault],then dont get upset. people tend to yell at other people to feel better about themselves. this might not make a lot of sense to you, but you have to look them in the eye when they are yelling at you, and calmly ask, why are you yelling me? if u are an emotional person, this may be hard, but it will make you fell better that you showed them that you have an opinion, and you didnt do anything to deserve to get yelled at. same with your siblings, teens love to see people have a reaction, get an adrenaline rush, you need to do almost the same thing with them, look at them in a confused way, and jsut be like, why are you calling me that. or something along those lines. or you could just not say anything. that would make the smae affect, and it would be easier to do if you would rather cry. about taling to someone. well, you can talk to me :) also, you have to make your friends understand. if they are any kind of friends they will be supportive of you and talk you through everything.
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ok well here are some ways to vent first off
*writing*poetry*art work*working out*boxing*any hobby
second rather than lashing out at your friends, talk to them about it, ask them for help, or talk to a counselor
And Don't think about suicide, that is a unnecasary action, this is temporary, you won't be stuck with your mother and siblings forever and life will get better, i promise, just hold in there
if you ever need to vent you can also contact me, you can let anything you want out, it will stay betwee you and me.
GoodLuck, feel free to contact me
Jon a.K.a GateKeeper
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Get a recorder n when you see them coming turn it on and put in yur pocket or somewhere they cant see iy or you could get a video camera and out it in the same room as you n then when they start ask them too stop make it look like yur the angelnot them and if you think that yur parents are way to hard pn you n yell at you constantly you really need to tlak to them or video tape them and let them see how un-fair they are to you i had to do that once and it worked soo i hope it duz for you with lots of luck and love tosh13
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