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so....basically, my name is chelsea.i love my friends. im a sophmore. the end.
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Where in the bible, new and old testemant, does it say you should believe in abstinence,or it is a sin? (link)
it says it in Scripture (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). (Hebrews 13:4). try these places in a bible or just type them up on google.

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why is it that most of the time when my boyfriend fingers me and i go to the bathroom after that it burns when i pee, does that mean there is somethin wrong with me. please tell me am scared (link)
i know what you are feeling, it IS normal. it could be either one of two things.

1. a uninary tract infection, which is sometimes caused by sexual intercourse, and bacteria swimming up your urethra.

2. just simply to rough intercourse and is tearing your sensitive tissues.

wait for anything to heal before haveing intercourse again, and if it doesnt go away, call your doector and you will get some simple antibiotics.

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Do you have to be 18 to buy condoms? (link)
there is no age limit on buying them, so my friend says. but i kno that i have, and my boyfriend have. there may once in a while be some hard ass at the register that wont let you cause he wants to "protect you" but other then that no.

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What is going too far past the limits when it comes to pda. Because im new at this hole PDA in high school thing. I mean i have already had sex with my boyfriend but as far as being at school he only kisses me on the head and stuff like that because i dont want to show to much PDA. What do you consiter too far? (link)
personally, i consider toung action to far, but i small kiss on the lips shouldnt offend anyone, but i perosnally wouldnt care, but wouldnt want to see people groping each other on lockers practically haveing sex, but if u must nake out, you should make it when you both go home, or can just wait until your alone.

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ok i have heard of sexual turn ons like biting of necks n kissing of necks and others but blowing ears? i mean i heard of it but how does that do anything? any reason? so...and rubbing of bellies..ye haha what does that do, i mean how does that turn someone on? i have heard of it so um...help? (link)
well personally, ive never heard of rubbing bellies, but i kno that biting is a stimulation that can sometimes be orgasmic. i kno that it is weird, but it is the same thing as the blowing in the ear, like, when your getting kissed on the neck and tour partner whispers something in yor ear, and you get that tingling sensation, i think that that is what you are talking about.

"Physiological reactions are usually triggered through sensitive nerves in these body parts which cause the release of pleasure causing chemicals that act as mental rewards to pursue such stimulation"

this can be practically anywhere on your body.

not everything works for everyone, so dont try to force something that isnt right for you.

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I love photgraphy and theres a school project im doing to take 15 different pictures of yourself. its hard to explain, but yeah. i've taken 15 but theyre all basic from the top. no smile. weird makeup etc.

i really want to get into this class, so any ideas? i want to try some cool settings,hair,makeup, and clothes.

PLEASE help. (link)
a few cool ones would be:

-one of only one side of you [like the left one.]

-two different kinds of makeup [like one angry one peaceful.]

-a scared looking one, maybe some teased hair and black make up

-trying dfferent lightings. maybe one with lots of light in the front,back, sides ect.

-one with you looking quite dead maybe some dried flowers in it.

-another sadder one would be you in an elegant dress with your hair all done and you looking kind of dissapointed.

there are endless possibilites.

try to clash setting with yourself. like a simplistic picture wth a crazy ass wallpaper. a nice one with a dark gray or stone wall, ect.

since there is no smile, you are better off taking somes stronged emotion ones, try to say away from pictures that could be on your myspace, cause they arent very professional looking at all [with your hand showing that your holding the camera.] explosive make up can also show emotion, but make sure that it goes with your face and doesnt look completly not with the settings. and dont always look right into the camera, but dont be shy. torn clothes would look really kool and so would vintage. this might e stuff the you already know, but it cant hurt to be reminded.

just try to be creative and non-repetitive with your props, makeup and scenario.

and also be real, can you can compltely tell when people try to ahve fake sadness, it looks horrible.

fellow photography lover

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OK i HAVE DiRTY BLONDE HAiR AND i PUT BLOOD RED MANiC PANiC HAiR DYE IN MY HAiR....BUT i ONLY PUT 2 STREAKS. iT LOOKS GREAT AND i AM GOiNG TO DO iT AGAiN ONCE IT FADES AWAY BUT i NEED ADVIDE ON WHAT COLOR SHOULD i PUT iN? WHAT COLOR DO YOU THiNK WOULD LOOK THE BEST ON DiRTY BLONDE HAiR? (link)
purple would look good. blue even. black and blond are a personal fav but just stay away from greens.

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Um, I am, like, REALLY bad at flirting and I need some tips. Like, what's a good way to get a guy's attention and flirt with him and whatever.

Thanks. (link)
flirting is my forte. i love it. always stay close to your "target." and always keep his intrest. never ever start a boring convorsation cause he will think thats what you are. joke around with him and keep eye contact. body launage is key. dont complain about yourself cause youll be pointing out your flaws, and you want him to see your stronge points. try to make sure you look especially good. haha. just try and stay natural. have fun with it. just dont be uptight, cause they dont like it either.

hope i helped!


Me and my boyfriend have been going out for one month. We haven't kissed yet. We hold hands, hug, and I've given him a kiss on the cheek a time or two. But I want a clever, cute way to kiss him, like something to say right before I do, then something after. Any ideas? We're going out tomorrow night, so I'd like to do it then. 14, Female. (link)
before: my advice is to just look him straight in the eyes and kiss him.

after: just wait until he says something. believe me guys dig it. if you take him by surpirse that would be relaly really cute. but you have to find the right setting, preferrably a quieter place. i dont know, i asked my friend on this one,and he said that guys love it like that, like, if u go through visually in your mind.


okay so i am going to homecoming with this guy that i really really like a lot. i am quite nervous about it too. what kind of dress should i wear. how should i do my hair and makeup? any tips for any part of homecoming would be greatly appreciated. (link)
hm. well im gonna take a stab at it and say that this is your first homecoming. ok. first of all, you should definatly have your eyes standout. whether it is glitzy cream shadow, or h.o. if you watched the emmys, debra messings were an excellent example of stand out eyes. dont only have a small amount of liner, cuase then it looks very amatuer. rosy cheeks are a must, and glossy lips look nice. dont ever do anything though there arent gowns. if you want to stand out, wear reds and purples. in my opinion, pinks look very childish. and if you want this guy, you have to look sexy! you shouldnt get your hair all done up and stuff. cause no one does and youll look kinda steriotypical prom and cheesy. and just have fun. its like anyother dance but with dresses and a football game. just stay sexy and try not to do too much. dont be nervous :D


I think I may be bi... I never really thought about it before a few days ago, you see my friends and I were playing Truth (it's like truth or dare without dares)and "David" asked what my deepest, darkest secret was. I said that it was that I used to make out and do other things with a girl that used to live by me. Then I realized I do a whole bunch of other things, like look at women's faces and breasts. I never really enjoyed doing things with her, but it felt nice... sorta. I don't really want to be Bi (no offense!!! I'm an activist). Do you think this was just a phase or do I truly have feelings for women? I haven't had any feelings since and I don't intend on doing anything with girls again.

Thanks...

P.S. I have a boyfriend. (link)
i personally think that it is just a phase. practially every girl goes throught it, but most of them dont admit it. but dont think of it to much especially because u ahve a boyfriend. most ppl find women attractive, that doesnt make you bisexual, its just that women are pretty.

dont worry!


My brother and sister are constantly mean to me and are always calling me names. My mom is always picking at me, and screaming at me for the littlest things i do wrong or don't do like she wanted me to. I have no way to vent out my anger other than taking it out on my friends. I recognize that i do that, and i apologize to my friends, but im afraid one day my friends will leave me. They don't understand what i have been through. My parents don't abuse me, but they are constantly yelling. I have thought about suicide, but i know that if i did it, my family would be devastated. i haven't attempted it yet. I can't tell my mom and dad what my brother and sister do to me, because they always make up an excuse or say "I didn't do that, why would i do that" and mty mom always believes them. I don't know who i can talk to.
Please help me......im desprete (link)
well, what i would do is, if your parents are yelling at you, for no reason, [like it is in way your fault],then dont get upset. people tend to yell at other people to feel better about themselves. this might not make a lot of sense to you, but you have to look them in the eye when they are yelling at you, and calmly ask, why are you yelling me? if u are an emotional person, this may be hard, but it will make you fell better that you showed them that you have an opinion, and you didnt do anything to deserve to get yelled at. same with your siblings, teens love to see people have a reaction, get an adrenaline rush, you need to do almost the same thing with them, look at them in a confused way, and jsut be like, why are you calling me that. or something along those lines. or you could just not say anything. that would make the smae affect, and it would be easier to do if you would rather cry. about taling to someone. well, you can talk to me :) also, you have to make your friends understand. if they are any kind of friends they will be supportive of you and talk you through everything.


How do you bring up, or you know the possibility of oral/hand sex? I really want to, but I'm not sure he will (he's very shy and modest). We've been dating for almost a year now (but haven't done anything because he goes all over with his dad who's a world traveler)and love him with all my heart. (link)
my advice is to not have oral sex if he is anykind of shy, cause that can cause him to be completly uncomfortable. if u guys are making out, and he gets hard, jsut kinda mive your hand downward, brushing against him as u go down, making him kno that your there. just keep kissing him the whole way. If he has nay objections, he'll tell you.



I might be pregnant, Il find out in a couple of weeks if i miss my period or not but im so stressed out about that fact that i might be pregnant this could cause my period to be late. If i am pregnant, what do i do? I cant keep it but i wouldnt know what to do if i was to have an abortion? I cant tell my family. I feel so alone, i always cry. Please can you give me some advice. (link)
i have been in the same circumstance as you. my advice is dont make it bigger than it is, by telling your friends, i lost some of mine that way. people will automatically judge you, and like me, rumors might fly, so just keep it to your self for now. if u are pregant, you can get a friend that drives and take you to a free abortion clinic. you can put down a fake anme and everything. just dont get to worked up, and think on the positive side :).


I'm 13 years old and I'm about 5'4. I once heard that if you're 5 feet tall, your supossed to weigh 100 pounds, and for every inch after that, it's another 5 pounds. Well, that would mean that I'm suposed to weigh about 120 pounds, but i only weigh 95. Does this mean I'm 25 pounds UNDERweight? It seems that if I gained 25 pounds, I'd be looking near obese. I don't feel or look underweight. Am I? (link)
well, clinically your underweight, because your bmi score is 16.332, and the underweight score is


Hello, I have two hickies from my boyfriend and I really really don't want my parents to see them, I try putting on make up but can totally see I'm wearing a bunch of make up and you can still kinda see the hickes!! Any tip to make them go away faster?? (link)
i ahve heard the [dont laugh] combing them makes them go aaway faster becasue it seems to push the blood which is what rises to the skin in the first place.


I have had a rash for about 6 weeks, there was a change in detergent and also cleaners but have corrected both of these. I have been to the dr 2x's and the itching is driving me crazy. I have done the aveno, sterode shots, steriode cream, zertic, claritan hive pills, all over counter anti-histmine. I am at a lost, the rash does not form a blister, is under the skin until I scratch it and then it whelps. Any suggestions. (link)
well, it seems to me that you have exzema. im not a doctor, but i ahve it on my inner elbows, and it seems the same as what u have

"Atopic dermatitis (eczema) is a common, recurring skin condition characterized by a dry, flaky, itchy rash. Eczema can appear on different parts of the body depending on your age. Its appearance may also vary depending on its severity and location on the body."

this website-

http://www.elidel.com/info/diagnosing/eczema_pictures.jsp?creative=10002&site=100005&source=01030&campaign=ELI-9314

gives u pictures and a lot of helpful information of different kinds and levels of eczema.

hopeing to help!


I want a good facewash that has a few different parts to it ex) blackhead remover, cleansing wash

does anybody know some really good facewash that is pretty cheap?I dont mean like proactiv or anything big like that, like something that i can just buy at a drugstore.
Thankz! (link)
the cheapest and best working product that i kno of is neutrogena. they have a ton of easy to use working products. they also have a great site: www.neutrogena.com . hope i helped!




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