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fighting with my friend
so i have this friend and lately weve been getting into a lot of fights. basically she has a lot of problems with the way i look but instead of telling ME about it she always goes behind my back and talks about it with someone else or talks about it on a website. and i think she thinks im mad at her because shes saying all this stuff about me which is part of it. i mean she claims that she wants to help me but when she talks about me she uses phrases that could be put a LOT nicer so it seems like shes really just making fun of me. but like the real reason im mad at her is because she always goes behind my back and talks about it. its like shes afraid of me or something...like if she tells me theres something wrong with me im gonna murder her in her sleep. but now we arent really talking and i dont feel like talking to her if shes just gonna keep on going behind my back like that. i mean should i talk to her about it or just move on and find more friends who actually care about my feelings? (btw im 14 and a girl) thanks!
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first of all, why is your friend worried about YOUR looks? it's none of her business. she sounds jealous & self conscious to mee. friends are supposed to accept you for who you are, not go behind your back and talk about your looks. because she's talking about you and being rude to you about it, she's probably putting you down to make herself feel better. if you want to try to talk to her, say something like, "look, i know you've been going behind my back and saying stuff. if you are going to say anything, say it to my face because that's really low and not what a real friend would do." if she denies it or is rude again, move on - you dont have to completley drop her but start hanging out with your other friends more and such. try and make new ones, too.
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Well in these types of situations I would also consider my own actions. What have I done? How has my relationship been with this person? What is my friend usually like? Has she always been like this? But yea. Find new friends
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hunnie♥ i`m in the SAME EXACT situation . but really she just wants to get attention from people or shes insecure about her own looks . i`m sure you`re beautiful and if she brings you down talk some sense into her!!!!♥ like i got this one friend who was my best friend forever and yeah she went behind my back and is callingme ugly . now i know im not ugly but shes just insecure. shes not that pretty . so just talk to your friend . tell her that you`re sick of the shit shes put you trhrough . and make new friends . but DON`T become friends with the people she hangs out with because if you say something to them then for sure they will tell her and all fights will happen again ♥
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ive had the same problem before! my 3 friends had problems with the way i looked too and they always talked about it behind my back. I too also thought they were just making fun of me. I got really mad at them and didn't talk to them, all i thought was "i'm ganna get new friends!" but then i realized that that was stupid. So i talked to them. I was just like " I know you have problems with the way i look but if i need your help with something i'll ask." and they apologized and said that they just wanted to help & that they were afraid i'd get mad at them and stop being friends with them. They also did mention that they weren't making fun of me,which made me a lot happier so i apologized for being mad. So i suggest you just do the same, talk to her. Tell her just to be honest with her, or say nothing at all. Me and my friends got along GREAT after this..and we are always honest with eachother. So its not worth losing a friend over.
Tell me if you need more advice because i can relate!xox
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