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I'm fat...but not a weight question!!!
My mum told me I'm fat today and I know I am but the way she said it made me feel like I should be anerexic.
She was petit in high school and when she had me she was still relly small. When she had my brother she got ffat but I feel alot of pressure to be thin. This summer I want to go gym like everyday but I don't know how to lay off me...she really bothers me abut my weigh and I will lose it...but in time!!!!!
She makes me feel bad...she actually makes me want to eat!!
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You need to talk to your mother about this. It is never okay for a mother to call her child fat. If you really are overweight, she should be helping you and ENCOURAGING you to do so, rather than calling you names. You should tell her that you want to lose weight, but you also need her to stop pressuring you.
If you want to lose weight, do it because you want to be healthy, not look skinny. Don't succumb to any pressure to stop eating or go on a fad diet. Just go to the gym and work out, and cut down on junk food. I'm assuming you're a teenaged girl, so I would recommend the book "The Diet for Teenagers Only" by Barbara Schroeder and Carrie Wiatt if you really want to lose the pounds.
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Your mom should not make you feel like you have to "compete" with the way she looked back in the day. You are your OWN person with your own likes, dislikes, feelings and wants. The next time she says your fat! Say, Mom uhhh I think you need to look in the mirror!!!!!!! and if she gets mad at you or whatever say well how do u think it makes me feel when you say that shit (crap) to me? Don't take what she is saying to you to heart, as teenagers yall are already pushed enough by magazines, billboards, t.v. and friends into thinking that you can only be beautiful if your a size 2.. and that is NOT true. Real women have curves! and as soon as you except yourself for the beatiful person that you are when someone makes a negative comment, you'll know exactly where to tell them to shove it!!
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I know how you feel. Sometimes my mom says, "You better start working out." and things like that. The best thing for you to do is tune it out. Don't let it get to you. Immediately after she says something, think about something else and pretend like you don't care. I know you can do it. I'm glad you're taking the effort to get thin, and you mom will realize that eventually, even if she is a little slow. Hope this helps and feel better.
-cindy <3
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i had this problem tell your mothe rwhat she doin i know you may not want to. but she cant stop doin somethin she dont know she's doin
Jazzy**
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I'd bet you money that you're not fat at all. my mom told me yesterday that I could stand to lose a few pounds.
I'm a size six. last year I lost 40 pounds and regained most of it. I feel exactly the same.
this, however, is not enough for mothers. or anyone. a lot of negative compliments tend to rise out of personal insecurity. in middle school I made fun of dorks. hell, I am a dork. my mother is well past 200 pounds and wears plus sizes in most stores. she'll never admit to it and she'll force herself into clothes she buys that match mine because I'm young and cool and hip. but she knows inside that she can't be me, so she wants to make me into her. right now she's dieting. again. I think she wants to balance out the weight between us, but I may be wrong.
now then. you're not fat. if you think you're fat you should look into some fat pride groups before diet groups. even if you're thin and waify you'll still feel "fat". it's all about confidence. I can carry 150 pounds and feel as fantastic as I did at 135. I can wear the same clothes. I don't feel guilty when I eat something I want to eat. consider the number of beautiful big girl models. fat is mental. ignore your mother.
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just try to eat healthier and work out maybe 4 times a week. not everyday because then you will have a freakin heartattack sweetie. just dont worry about your weight but if your that worried about it just start eating healthier. see, i havent been eating healthier the past few years..but now i've been working out and doing more sport activities. just get into more sports, work out (3 or 4 times a day), and eat healthy food. maybe fastfood once a month..but thats it! maybe a fried food here and there. but just watch what you eat and don't be overly-obsessive. just tell your mom how you feel. if its putting you down, then maybe you should get into weight watchers or something like that. trust me, it works.
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Aww, well thats really cruel that your mother would call you fat.
I'm so sorry sweety!
But if you want to lose some weight,
you need to exercise & eat healthy,
thats the best thing I can suggest you!
Because I cant tell you what exercises to do or what to eat, since everyone's body is different.
But dont listen to what she says,
I dont know why shes saying that.
Its horrible.
take care
<3
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A lot of times when people are upset, they will eat to calm down. So next time your mother tells you that you are fat, tell her how much it hurts your feelings and by telling you just makes you want to eat. If she really wants you to lose weight, she should be your supporter. If you want to get back at her, you can remind her that she isn't so skinny either.
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