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In love with my best friend
I'm falling for my best friend. I'm a 17 year old chick, if it helps. He's 16, and a male, obviously. He's incredible. He's smart, he's hilarious, he's freaking adorable, and he's sooo sweet. Look at that! He's so sweet that I used multiple o's. I never use multiple o's! He's got his problems, but I can't think of any right now. The thing is, he's always falling for one friend of his or another, and I can't stand to watch him get his heart broken over and over again. It's so sad, and it breaks my heart. I want to hug him and kiss him and hold him and tell him it'll be ok, but at the same exact time, I want to strangle him and tell him he's being an idiot, pick me pick me pick me! But that wouldn't help much.
He knows that I like him, and that's not ruining our friendship at all. He really is the coolest guy ever. He's honestly the one person I can talk to about anything. Plus he's the only one who really gets my sense of humor. I have this feeling that, were we together, we'd have one of those once or twice in a lifetime relationships, one that you base all future relationships on, that old people "awww" about, and that people on the street truly wish they had.
Arg!! What can I do? Is there anything I CAN do? Help!
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wow, he sounds really great. I have a friend sorta like that but im not in love with him. i can only imagine how hard thats gotta be. If he knows that you like him, maybe he isn't asking you out because he is scared it would ruin the friendship. (Yes, guys really do think about that. specially guys like that.) my bff, whos a guy, actually told me that when he was trying to figure out if he should ask out his current girl friend. I dont know that there is much you can do, other than tell him how u feel. results aren't garunteed with that one, but i think its worth a shot. instant message me if u need more help. SwtEllen2
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Wow, you seem to really dig him. I can imagine it would be very upsetting seeing him get his heart broken over other girls, and wondering "Why not me" However, the way it's going at the moment, your feelings for him are only going to grow more stronger and you're only going to get even more upset. You can't keep hanging on like this, falling for him completely and yet not knowing what he exactly feels about you.
I don't know whether he likes you or not. If he knows you like him, one would wonder why he hasn't tried to pursue something with you. However, that might not mean anything. I think what you need to do is ask him straight out how he feels about you. Once you hear it from him yourself, you'll feel much better, and you'll know whether to get over him or whatnit. Just say to him "You know how I feel about you, how do you feel about me?" That's all you really can do. If your feelings for him haven't ruined your friendship thus far, I highly doubt asking him how he feels about you will either. This kind of thing happens all the time. Friends fall for each other very often. It's inevitable, especially if you're close. Don't delay asking how he feels a day longer; you never know what could possibly happen.
Good luck with it.
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I know it's complicated to have feelings for someone and nothing is really happening, but if he had the same feelings for you I'd think that he would have already made his move or something.
I'm not sure what it is you're looking for, but if you know that he doesn't feel the same then all you can do is keep being his friend and don't be afraid to let him know it's ok when he does go through tough times in a relationship. If you do end up calling him an idiot and being insulting toward him then it will absolutely ruin the friendship, and I think that you'd rather you both have that friendship than lose it over feelings.
I know it's not fun at all to see him with other girls and watch him not really glance at you in that way, but it's something you have to deal with. Don't be afraid to try putting yourself out there to people too. They may not be your best friend, but it doesn't mean that they can't make you happy.
-TheTeenGirl
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