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Bestfriend VS. Bestfriend
So I have two really great friends. At one time we were all friends together. But last year, I was stuck in the middle, and my two friends stopped being friends. But I was still friends with each of them. Both of my friends have different 'groups' of friends, whom im in both groups. I'm having a party this Summer, and I want to invite all of my friends. (Which are my two friends, and BOTH of their groups.) I'm really stuck between who to invite, cause I love them both, but I know some fighting drama will most likely go down if they both come, and it'll all just be ruined. I really love both of them, and I feel if i don't invite one or the other, someone's feelings will get hurt. What should I do?
(PS - I can't have two different parties.)
Thank You!
xoxo
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This happens to me a lot. I always try to get them back together, but it never works. So lately I just stay outta it (well try to) and if they try to fight over me, I just say im not going to choose and thing like that. Just have one party and Im sure the two groups will ignore eachother and everythign will be fine, and soon get over their fight. Sorry if this isnt much help. <3
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Ok here's what you do:
You take them both to a boxing ring. Put them in the ring. Hand them both a wiffle bat. Turn on the tape recorder Have them pummel each other. The last person standing gets to go to the party. And then you have an awesome video to show at said party. Everyone wins!
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I;ve been in this situation, too. What I did was invite everyone but tell them that the other one is invited and they can decide whether they want to come or not! Make sure you make a no drama rule and if they do come and end up fighting, remind them of the rule and then hang out with some other people. Also, maybe you could have two rooms open or something, so they wouldn't even ahve to see each other.
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I know that this situation is very unfair on you and to be honest, it's wrong of your friends to put you in the middle, just because they can't set aside their differences.
Here's what you need to do. Speak to each friend individually. Tell them that you would really love it if they would come because it would mean a lot to you. Also tell them that you are inviting the other and as much as you care about them both, if they cause any problems at the party, you will make sure they get kicked out. I know that sounds harsh but at the end of the day, if they can't put aside their differences for one day for your party, they shouldn't be there in the first place. Don't let them make you feel you have to choose between them because you shouldn't have to. The fact of the matter is that they have a problem with each other and not with you. They can't make you suffer because of their argument or they aren't true friends.
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Talk to them about it ask if they can all just be friend just for this party.Tell them you can only have one party and you want to invite all of them.AbBeY
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I understand where you're coming from but you are the one who is throwing the party. As you directly stated, you are friends with both of them. Now, if the two of them like you they would be willing to accept that the other one will be at the party. Talk to the both and make it clear that the other one is coming so that there will be no unexpected surprises. You could try telling them that if there will be any fighting or bitching whatsoever it will not be tolerated. But I honestly don't think it will be that bad because they will have their own "groups" to hang out with. So I think that if each one has there friends with them they'll associated more with them than with the person they don't like. Just tell them to ignore your other friend if they have a problem with them rather than starting anything and hang out with there friends. Don't push them to make up with the other one if they're not willing to because that could turn out bad. Because you are friends with both make sure you give them each equal attention so that the other doesn't feel like you're spending so much time with the other friend instead of her. If they both can't agree to this they need to be more mature. But I'm sure they will since your their friend. Good luck and have a great time at the party!
Oh, and please don't invite one instead of the other because their feelings will be hurt. And that may create more drama than having the both of them there would.
-Shannon
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ok.. ive been through this and my advice would be that you should talk to them both. tell them that you want to invite both of them but if there is fighting/drama you dont want it . let them know that because if there really your friend they will at least do that for you. and if that doesent work think of who's been there for you the most. who's the one you will have the best time with without any problems.
hope i helped!
,serenity
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