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My parents got divorced 6 months ago. Tomorrow them and my sisters and me r gonna like sit down and come up with a plan, so we can have like a regular schedule to see our dad. He picks me up from school every day and stuff, so it's not like i dont see him. I just dont wanna have like a plan! because sometimes im not gonna feel like hangin out with him. and i know this meeting is gonna get me annoyed! idk, how should i handle this ???
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agh my parents divorced like 15 years ago. i was only a baby. and we to had this "plan" . every other weekend we would go see him and all. man didnt it get agervatin. most weekend i had plans to do so i would think my dad would get hurt cause i didnt want to go to his house ans bleh bleh bleh. but you should be open minded and tell your parents u dont want to have all your weekends planed out. just whatever happens.. happens.. as of now dont see my dad ever, not saying that will come to it with you but value the time you get as well
-Adrianna
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ok well your parents both have custody over you so you are going to get used to switching around. but if you feel like you don't want to go with your dad or your mom one day, then just tell them. they should be understanding of you, you're just a kid, and its going to be hard. so try to explain to them how you feel.
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The way you should look at everything is that your parents probably didn't want to have to put up a schedule for you and your sisters. They didn't intend on getting divorced and putting your family through all of this, so take note that this probably isn't easy or satisfying for them either.
It sounds like they want you and your sisters to have equal time with your dad and that's the way it should be whether you feel like it or not. Your dad will want to see you every chance he gets because you will no longer be living together as a family and that's hard to do. There are times where you'll want to do something else instead of spending time with your dad, but it will make your dad happy.
You have to mske the best out of things. You can't always be entertained and when you aren't, you have to do something that will keep you busy. Spend time catching up with your sisters or talk to your dad. It's not like you won't be going places with him. Just wait until this plan actually comes into play and you'll see that your parents just want the best situation out of this.
-TheTeenGirl
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Divorces are tricky, my parents got divorced when I was in 6th grade. I never really got to choose when I was going to be with my dad or mom, they just kind of chose for me and my siblings. Ask the lawyers if there is anyway that the scheduale could be flexible. Also talk to your parents. They are going to have to agree so there are no big arguments over custody. If the flexible scheduale is out of the question, I guess just pick a scheduale that you think will work best. I know it's hard, but if there is no way around it, you just have to be the bigger person and suck it up. If you need any other advice about this situation, you know where to find me. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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Well my parents are divorced also, and we've had scheldueld times to see my dad and stuff. Sometimes I'll go to see him, sometimes I won't because I don't feel like seeing him. It's not like he's always forcing me to go either, so maybe you should just tell him before you go over that you don't want to go that certain day. I don't think he'd get too mad at you if you don't feel like going out that day or something. Don't think about it too much and take the scheduled times as they come. Your sisters probably won't want to see him sometimes also, so don't feel bad if you kindly tell him.
-mystical_breeze
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