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I Like Every Guy
13/f
I have a really big and annoying problem: I pretty much like every guy I come across. It's really annoying... all I do is stare at them. And it's not just guys from school! It's celebrities too. I'm so tired of it; I feel like I can't concentrate. I've had a boyfriend before, but I dumped him because he wasn't a good boyfriend. Does this have anything to do with it? What should I do?
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Yes it does have something to do with your problem. Maybe you should pay attention to something else. I had the same problem but i stopped. The way i stopped is to listen to alot of music. Make new friends that aren't boys. MAybe you'll forget about it.
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It may just be that you are in an adolescent stage where you are confused about who you love and who you don't. See, there are a lot of Chemicals that are changing you at your age, so your hormones are a lot higher. Thus, hormones make you see different guys in ways you have not yet imagined, and makes you see that of every guy, if that makes sense.
Thus, most relationships in the early teen years are short. I think your dumping may have something to do with the issue that you are at this age, and you thus find most guys attractive.
Just wait a bit of time. Everyone gets over this stage eventually. It is very normal, to be honest.
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Hm, it could have to do with your ex boyfriend. You might be looking at other guys to see which ones are nice etc. Like the other advicenator said, its just a phase also. When I was 13 I went through it also, except...not ever guy I came across. You should just wait it out, its not like your going to go out with any guy that you see, so its all good. Hope I helped! Good Luck hun.
-Brina
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It's just your age sweetie, you'll grow out of it. It's the raging hormones and the "mystique" of the opposite sex. Pretty soon they won't seem so elusive and mysterious, and you'll be able to have real relationships with them. It ought to make it feel better that boys your age are going through the same thing.
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I never said you HAD it.
Chill out. Dont ask for advice if you intend on critizising people who are trying to help you.
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Yes, I do sympathise, you have a terrible problem-it's called being 13. I'm not trying to patronise you, but you are still so young: I was exactly like that at your age. Still am now, to a certain extent. I'll let you in to a little secret: there's no such person as "the one". In life, we rub up against many people on a daily basis, many of whom are interesting, beautiful, kind and charming, yet none of whom are perfect. Which is not to say that you should stay with a bad boyfriend(in any case, 13 is far too young to settle down, except in a few EXTREMELY rare cases, of which I am sure from your question you are not one). You do however have to develop an idea of what is important to you in a relationship, what qualities you prioritise. Everyone should have a list of non-negotiables, and stick to them. One excellent book is "If I'm so wonderful, why am I still single?", by Susan Page.While it doesn't tell you as such how to distract yourself from men, it does suggest how best to zero in on the ones who are worthwhile.In the meantime, good luck! and enjoy your early adolesence. Sometimes I wish I was still where you are ;-)
Take care,
Lucretia.
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