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Neighbors
Our 17 year old neighbor boy came to my door tonight and said to me "stop spreading rumors about me" amoungst other words that were not even logical. He apparently jumped to some conclusions or something, but I did not say the things that he says I did. He was angry, and out of control. I told him to get off my property before I called the police. This isn't the first run in we've had with these neighbors, but I have always tried to get along. Even after their dog attacked my daughter 10 years ago, and caused her permanent scarring to her face...I didn't sue them, and still strived for peace between us. I had a case too..but I didn't want to take food off the table of a single mom!
My daughter who is his age, told me that she just noticed key marks on her car. I think he might have done this, but I have no proof. He's always been mean to her, and made fun of her for the scars and blamed her because their vicious dog was put down at the hands of the law. But I was still pleasant to him, even though he won't even look my way if I met him on the street.
Any time in the past that I have tried to talk to the Mother of these kids, she stands up for her kids and doesn't want to believe that they are ever in the wrong.
I am so distraught over this obnoxious brat--and that he even came to my door looking for a fight. To top it off, I am running a 102 temp and feel really rotten..I was sleeping when he knocked on the door.
He was very wrong..and owes me an apology, but I know that will never happen. I don't want to exchange any bad words with him again, and I don't want to deal with his Mother..but we have to face each other all the time as our houses are only about 20 feet apart, and we live in a very small suburban area.
What do you think I should do to handle this situation? I have already talked to the other people that he tried to involve, and they didn't know what he was talking about either.
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Sounds like this young man may have a chemical imbalance if he is talking with no sense to his words. The mother may be too much into making a living and providing for this family that she fails to see the signs of a more serious problem. Very nice it was of you not to press charges against the mother for what clearly was her liability. However, no good deed goes unpunished. There's an old saying "fool me once, shame on YOU, fool me twice, shame on ME"....the next time you have proof and probable cause, let the authorities handle the conflict, and by all means, keep documentation of any evidence tp present a valid case.
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I think it sounds like he's off his meds. Don't exchange any words with him or his mother, period. Don't answer the door if he comes back, and get caller ID, and tell your daughter to keep her distance, too. If he refuses to get off your property, really call the police next time, don't just threaten it.
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I know this may not be an option for you, but a dog attacking your daughter is a good enough reason to move. It's about protecting your child, and if your neighbors are stupid enough to have a dog that attacked your daughter and then has the nerve to make fun of the scars that the dog left, then you should be living somewhere else.
You know for sure that you'll never get things straightened out with them, and you have to do what you have to do. You've done everything you could to make these neighbors happy. And as much as it may hurt to hear, that really ticks me off that you didn't take you neighbor to court for their dog attacking her. You said that she is now his age and this happened 10 years ago. So she was about 7 or 8. That is horrid.
I mean, not only did you let them get away with it, but apparently it wasn't a good enough reason for you to move to keep your daughter safe. That really bothers me and you need to make it right by getting out of that situation. Your neighbor has never been greatful for the sacrifices you've made to make them happy. I consider them lucky that they didn't get taken to court and sued.
Don't sit around in that house and wait for an apology. It won't happen as you are aware of and even if he did apologize, it will never make up for him making fun of your daughter's scars and for his mom's stupidity of not doing a thing about her children.
Look, now I may have misunderstood your situation to a certain extent, but I do know that you need to move. Get an apartment or wherever you can go that is best for your family. I know you may not be expecting advice from a 15 year old girl, but it's the right thing to do when it's leaving permanant marks on your family.
-TheTeenGirl
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I would call the police about the key marks on your daughters car. I would relate to them the earlier conversation with the kid next door. Maybe they can get to the bottom of the problem.
I realize you don't want to stir up trouble with the neighbors but you need to put a stop to this.
He gets away with it this time and it will just continue.
Nobody next door wants to tell you what the problem is, you call someone else to get the info for you. It isn't like you will be losing good friends or anything, they are already pretty rude people. Don't let them get away with
keying your daughters car. :)
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